拯救奥菲莉亚
Reviving Ophelia
Mary Pipher · 初版 2005 年
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现象级 #1 New York Times 畅销书。销量超过 150 万册。现已由 Riverhead 出版。这部开创性著作提出了整整一代人中最发人深省的问题之一：为什么美国青春期女孩会沦为抑郁症、进食障碍、自杀倾向以及极度自卑的受害者？Dr. Pipher 指出，这是由于美国存在一种性别歧视且痴迷外貌的“荼毒女孩”文化——在这种文化中，女孩们不断艰难地寻找真我。在 Reviving Ophelia 中，这些来自青春期第一线、未经审查的女孩心声得以被听见。个人……
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……未来几十年 [2] 女孩有了内化问题，我们就说她们敏感；男孩有了外化问题，我们就说他们野蛮。而有内化问题的男孩则被视而不见。《拯救奥菲莉亚》其实是一本好书，它把科胡特的自体心理学引入了主流，但人们却从中得出了错误的结论：尽管青春期女孩对自我形象深感苦恼，但青春期的……
…next few decades [2] Girls have internalizing problems and we say they are sensitive, Boys have externalizing problems and we say they are brutes. Boys who have internalizing problems are invisible. Reviving Ophelia was actually a great book that brought Kohut's self-psychology into the mainstream but people came to the wrong conclusions from it: while teenage girls are anguished about their self-image, teenage…
你可以去看看一本叫《拯救奥菲莉亚》（Reviving Ophelia）的书。
You might check out a book called “Reviving Ophelia”.
我完全赞同。在《拯救奥菲莉亚》[1]一书中，作者断言，适应能力最好的女孩，都是那些在家里有着大量明确规矩的人。在成年人的世界里，规则是好的且被公认的；凭什么在孩子的世界里……
I completely agree. In the book Reviving Ophelia [1] the author asserts that the most well-adjusted girls were the ones who had plenty of well-defined boundaries at home. Rules are good and accepted in the adult world; why would the child world be…
……如果我开始对某个性别进行大而化之的武断概括，我会怎么看自己？这对男性不好，对女性同样不好。最根本的是，任何人“试图”去寻找的任何效应，概率都无限接近 50%，毫无意义。太长不看（Tl;Dr）：《拯救奥菲莉亚》就是垃圾伪科学，目的无非是多卖几本书罢了。
…about myself if I started making huge sweeping generalizations about a gender? Its bad for males, and its bad for females. Primarily, any effect one "tries" to find is so close to 50% its useless. Tl;Dr. Reviving Ophelia is junk science, meant only to sell more of their books.
……我们想成为更好的那一批。不久前，我们先是看了《法式育儿指南》（Bringing up Bébé），之后又学会了《如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说》；在看《拯救奥菲莉亚》时我们甚至做足了准备（Prepared）。到了今年，我们意识到，我们只想安安稳稳做一个“及格的父母”。1. https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Up-Bébé-Discovers-Parenting/... 2. https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638...……
…we wanted to be one of the better ones. A while back, we started with Bringing up Bébé, and since then learnt How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk; we were even Prepared while Reviving Ophelia. This year, we realized, we want to just settle on being A Good Enough Parent. 1. https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Up-Bébé-Discovers-Parenting/... 2. https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638...…