嫁给他
Marry him
Lori Gottlieb · 初版 2010 年
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你拥有一份充实的工作、一群极好的朋友、一间完美的公寓，而且从不缺少约会。就算你还没遇到The One又怎样？他总会出现的，对吧？可要是他不会出现呢？或者更糟的是，要是他已经出现过，而你只是浑然不觉呢？突然发现自己年届四十依然单身的Lori Gottlieb，在2008年3月的The Atlantic文章中说出了令人难以置信的言论：也许她以及各地的单身女性，都需要停止追逐虚无飘渺的白马王子，转而选择Mr. Good Enough。看着朋友们与恰好各方面都很出色的‘合适先生’喜结良缘
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……不同的城市。> 你太挑了，哪怕你自己不觉得。赞同。给楼主的可行建议是妥协一下，把找对象的硬性要求缩减一下。https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0...（亚马逊：《嫁给他：退而求其次找个“差不多”先生的理由》）https://openlibrary.org/works/OL8109804W/Marry_him?edition=i...（Open Library：《嫁给他：退而求其次……
…different cities . > You are too picky, even if you don't think you are. Agreed. Actionable advice to OP would be to compromise and narrow down core requirements for a partner. https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0... (Amazon: Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough) https://openlibrary.org/works/OL8109804W/Marry_him?edition=i... (Open Library: Marry Him: The Case for Settling…
……Matthew Lyon、Katie Hafner：《互联网的黎明》。大量历史和经验教训。消遣读物方面推荐苏珊·柯林斯的《饥饿游戏》三部曲。读起来很快但发人深省的青少年小说。生活方面推荐 Lori Gottlieb 的《嫁给他：退而求其次找个“差不多”先生的理由》：很有意思的书，读起来很轻松，面向女性读者，但对于我们为什么没能在为时已晚之前把自己嫁出去，给出了一些非常不错的见解。我很庆幸自己……
…Matthew Lyon, Katie Hafner: The beginning of the internet. Plenty of history and lessons Fun The Hunger Games Trilogy - Suzanne Collins. Young adult fiction that reads fast but makes you think. Life Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough - Lori Gottlieb: Amusing book, easy read and aimed at women, but has some good insights on why we fail to get married before it's too late. I love that I was…
……品质、慷慨、善良、靠谱，而不是太纠结于‘就因为这个男人穿衣服的风格，你还要不要跟他第二次约会’这种事。”https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0...（《嫁给他：退而求其次找个“差不多”先生的理由》）https://openlibrary.org/books/OL23687614M/Marry_him 促成这本书的那篇《大西洋月刊》文章：https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h...……
…qualities, generosity, kindness, reliability, and not getting so hung up on things like, you know, whether you’re going to go on a second date with a guy because of how he dressed.” https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0... (Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough) https://openlibrary.org/books/OL23687614M/Marry_him The Atlantic piece that was the genesis for the book: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h...…
……对于家庭来说，所谓的“一票否决项”是会变的。有些男人可能不太懂人情世故，但会是很棒的父亲。原帖引用链接文章里的第二段话——出自 Lori Gottlieb 一篇题为《嫁给他！》的有趣文章，我正考虑转给我几个30岁上下、单身且还在不停连环相亲的女朋友看（当然也得掂量掂量会有什么负面后果）。http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry
…to family, the so-called “deal breakers” change. Some guys aren’t worldly, but they’d make great dads. 2nd quote from linked article in original piece - an interesting Lori Gottlieb article entitled "Marry Him!" which I'm considering forwarding to a few of my 30-ish single and still serial-dating female friends (considering the negative repercussions). http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry
…https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g... https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
…https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g... https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
>如果女性宁可单身，也不愿将就一个无法满足她所有预期的伴侣这正是 Lori Gottlieb 写《嫁给他：退而求其次找个“差不多”先生的理由》的原因。<https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough-eboo...> 也能看出这跟苏珊·“普林斯顿妈妈”·帕顿在《嫁……》里传达的信息如出一辙
>If women would rather remain single than setting for a partner who doesn't match all their expectations This is why Lori Gottlieb wrote Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. <https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough-eboo...> One can also see the relation to the message of Susan "the Princeton mom" Patton's Marry…