他为什么那样做？
Why does he do that?
Lundy Bancroft · 初版 2002 年
6人推荐
14位读者提及
29次提及
为什么值得读
- 作者具备十余年施暴者辅导的一线经验
- 直击控制狂与施虐者的深层行为逻辑
- 洞察极其敏锐，能帮人识别日常隐性PUA
在这本开创性的畅销书中，专攻施暴男性心理咨询的咨询师 Lundy Bancroft 运用他对施暴者思维模式的洞察，帮助女性识别自己何时正在被控制或贬低，并找到摆脱虐待关系的途径。他说他爱你，那么……他为什么会那样做？你曾无数次问过自己这个问题。现在，你有机会看透愤怒与控制欲极强的男性的内心世界，进而改变自己的人生。在 Why Does He Do That? 中，你将了解到：• 虐待行为的早期预警信号 • 施暴思维的本质 •
Hacker News 上怎么说
正在加载完整评论……
跟我完全想到一块儿去了。对于任何对虐待/家暴话题感兴趣的人，我强烈推荐《他为什么会那样？愤怒与控制狂男人的内心世界》（Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men）：http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/042519... 这是我读过最一针见血的书，没有之一。作者是一名家庭暴力咨询师……
Exactly my thought. For anybody interested in the topic of abuse, I strongly recommend, "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men": http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/042519... It is the single most astute book I have read. The author, a domestic violence counselor…
……那也是无知得让人尴尬。如果你想学点东西，不妨去看看 Citron 的《网络空间中的仇恨犯罪》（Hate Crimes in Cyberspace）、Warren 的《Targeted and Trolled》、Jeong 的《垃圾互联网》（The Internet of Garbage），以及 Bancroft 的《他为什么会那样》（Why Does He Do That）。
…That is also embarrassingly ignorant. If you'd like to learn something, maybe try Citron's "Hate Crimes in Cyberspace", Warren's "Targeted and Trolled", Jeong's "The Internet of Garbage", and Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That".
……问题不在于这事儿会不会曝光，而是在于什么时候。我很难相信他们内部没人问过这个问题，但不管怎样，产生后果该怪的是他们，而不是斯诺登。[1] Lundy Bancroft 的《他为什么会那样？》（Why Does He Do That?），http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/042519...。这是我读过最一针见血的内容了。有些书名义上讲的是个相对狭窄的话题，但我老是……
…question of if that would come out, it was when. I find it hard to believe nobody internally asked that, but either way they are the ones to blame for the consequences, not Snowden. [1] Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?", http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/042519.... It's the single most astute thing I've read. It's one of those books where it's nominally about a relatively narrow topic, but I keep…
去搜搜互联网上那些知名女性的故事吧。这种破事一次又一次又一次地上演。第一次你可能觉得离奇，但到了第20次呢？绝非偶然。另一个让你不再觉得离奇的方法：去读读 Lundy Bancroft 写的《他为什么会那样？》（Why Does He Do That?）这本书。[1]（如果有人想要一本，直接发邮件找我，纸质版或 Kindle 版任选，我送你。到目前为止我已经送出12本了。）这本书的作者花了……
Seek out the stories of prominent women on the Internet. This stuff happens over and over and over. The first time it seems odd. But the 20th? Nope. Another way for it not to seem odd: Go read the book "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. [1] (If anybody would like a copy, just contact me via email and I will send you your choice of paper or Kindle versions. I've given 12 away so far.) It's a book by a fellow who spent…
说到有虐待倾向的老板，我来推荐一本心头好：https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000Q9J0RO 就是 Lundy Bancroft 写的《他为什么会那样？愤怒与控制狂男人的内心世界》（Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men）。这是我读过最一针见血的书，没有之一。这家伙当了十多年的施虐男性咨询师，其中大部分人还是法院强制送过来的……
Speaking of abusive bosses, let me recommend a favorite book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000Q9J0RO It's Lundy Bancroft's, "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men". It's the single most astute thing I've ever read. The guy spent more than a decade as a counselor for abusive men, most of them ordered to him by the courts.…
……全球社会及其历史摆在那儿，我觉得我们对自己所做的事几乎从来就没彻底搞懂过。世界很大，每个人本身就是一个宇宙。这里你可以读一本书，就是 Bancroft 的《他为什么会那样？愤怒与控制狂男人的内心世界》（Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men）。这是一位心理治疗师写的，他主要负责跟法院强制送来进行家暴相关辅导的男性打交道。那些人里几乎没人认为自己……
…global society and its history is, I'd say we almost never totally understand anything we do. It's a big world, and people are universes unto themselves. One book you might read here is, Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men". It's written by a therapist who mainly dealt with men in court-mandated therapy programs related to domestic abuse. Few of the men ever saw themselves…