四种爱
The Four Loves
C. S. Lewis · 初版 1960 年
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- 辨析渴求之爱与付出之爱的本质差异
- 阐释如何将情欲升华为无私的圣爱
- 引导读者正视爱带来的风险与生命联结
这部小说改编自 C. S. Lewis 的 The Four Loves 广播讲座。
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The Four Loves
C. S. Lewis · 初版 1960 年
这部小说改编自 C. S. Lewis 的 The Four Loves 广播讲座。
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“……落入悲剧，或者说至少面对悲剧的风险，乃是万劫不复。除了天堂，唯一能彻底避开爱的一切危险与纷扰的地方，只有地狱。”——C.S. 刘易斯《四种爱》（The Four Loves）。是的，你可能会受伤。当然了，在决定对谁产生情感依赖时一定要保持清醒。但如果你的情感从不与他人纠缠在一起，那就等于是错过了活着的最大乐趣之一。
…to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell." - C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves Yeah, you can get hurt. For sure, be wise about who you become emotionally dependent on. But not having your emotions entangled with another's is to miss one of the great joys of being alive.
楼主应该去读读 C.S. 刘易斯的《四种爱》。如果把爱主要当成一种感觉，那无条件的爱确实显得不理性，但感觉并不是最高境界的爱。
OP should read The Four Loves by CS Lewis. Unconditional love seems irrational if love is mainly a kind of feeling, but that's not the highest kind of love.
啊，但人们确实偶尔会做出看似利他的举动，而且从长远经验来看，其中有些是值得鼓励的。英语里的“Love”承载的含义实在太多了。C.S. 刘易斯的《四种爱》讲得很透彻：eros（情爱，可能带有自私成分）最高尚、最美好的用法，就是用来激发 agape（无私之爱）。“当我在爱中且因爱而许下忠诚的承诺……
Ah, but people do occasionally do seemingly-altruistic things, and by long experience, some of those are worth encouraging. "Love" in English wears too many hats. C.S. Lewis' Four Loves does a good job explaining how the highest and best use of eros (which can be selfish) is to encourage agape (selfless love). "The promise, made when I am in love and because I am in love, to be true…
这里有人推荐了《痛苦的奥秘》（The Problem of Pain）和《卿抚伤痛》（A Grief Observed），那我再补两本：《返璞归真》（Mere Christianity）和《四种爱》（The Four Loves）。
Someone here recommended The Problem of Pain and A Grief Observed, and I would add Mere Christianity and The Four Loves.
……我目前经历的这一切，我越来越理解为个人和整个社会层面虐待的后果。）既然你在怀疑这种情感是否健康，不妨读读 C.S. 刘易斯的《四种爱》：“匮乏之爱/馈赠之爱”（Need love/Gift love）的对立也许能给你答案。
…through at the moment, that I increasingly understand as a consequence of both personal and societal-level abuse.) Since you are wondering about the healthiness of that emotion, try to read C.S. Lewis "The Four Loves": the Need love/Gift love opposition may have answers for you.
……^这三本可能是我读过最重要的书，它们对改变我人生轨迹的影响可能超过了列表上的其他任何书。拉什迪的《午夜之子》、《罗伯特议事规则》、《四种爱》、《爱的五种语言》，还有一本曾经很流行、反天主教的小册子叫《血径》（The Trail of Blood）。说到底，所有这些作品中都包含着真理、虚假、历史、情感与理解，把这些特定的内容综合起来……
…^These three are probably the most important books I ever read, they probably changed the trajectory of my life more than any others on the list. Midnight's Children. Rushdie Roberts Rules of Order. The four loves Love languages A once popular anti catholic tract called "The Trail of Blood". Basically there is truth, falsehood, history, emotion and understanding in all these works, synthesizing these particular…