表达感恩是让一天变得更美好的最稳妥途径之一。我最喜欢的书之一——蒂姆·米勒博士（Tim Miller, PhD）的《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）——核心论点就是：1. 大多数人相对都不快乐；2. 根本原因是我们总是倾向于想要“更多”[金钱/权力、爱、认可]——这……
Expressing gratitude is one of the surest paths to a better day. One of my all-time favorite books -- "How to Want What You Have" by Tim Miller, PhD -- has as its central thesis the idea that: 1. Most people are relatively unhappy; 2. The root cause is our tendency always to want More [money/power, love, recognition] -- which…
……要是……就好了”，因为我经历过那种“要是……就好了”。（没有其他选择其实是一条出奇有效的通往幸福的途径。（参见：《撞上幸福》（Stumbling on Happiness））。与该话题相关的另一本好书是《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）。https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/933037.How_to_Want_What_...
…only...." because I've done the "if only." (Not having other options is actually a surprisingly effective route to happiness. (See: Stumbling on Happiness)). Another great book related to this topic is "How to Want What You Have." https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/933037.How_to_Want_What_...
写得太棒了。我有好几本相关的书想加进你的书单，但这本尤其让我走上了你我都在探寻并推崇的那种实用哲学之路：《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have，作者 Timothy Miller）
Wonderful post. I have a number of related books I'd add to your list, but this one in particular got me started on a path to the kind of practical philosophy you and I both seek and extoll: "How to Want What You Have" (Timothy Miller)
……通常极不擅长预测未来以及搞清楚到底什么才能让自己快乐。对于任何可能会想“只要我能做到 X 我就会快乐……”的人来说，这都是一个警示故事。接着再读蒂莫西·雷·米勒的《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have），你就拿到了一张通往幸福的处方。
…generally extremely bad at predicting the future and figuring out what actually will make them happy. It's a cautionary tale for anyone who might think "If only I could do X I'd be happy..." Follow that with "How to Want What You Have," by Timothy Ray Miller, and you have a prescription for happiness.
有一本书可能很好地捕捉并阐述了上述内容（尤其是关于谦逊）：蒂莫西·米勒的《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）：http://www.amazon.com/How-Want-What-You-Have/dp/0805033173 典型的“西方”幸福方式是：“我拥有 X 但我想要 Y，所以为了快乐我必须得到 Y。”这种……
A book that may capture and elaborate on the above (esp. re: modesty) is "How to Want What You Have" by Timothy Miller: http://www.amazon.com/How-Want-What-You-Have/dp/0805033173 The typical "western" approach to happiness is: "I have X but I want Y, therefore, to be happy I need to achieve Y." This…
……你已经拥有的东西。怎么做？践行三件事：同理心（Compassion）、专注（Attention）和感恩（Gratitude）。（任意挑两件，第三件几乎自然而然就会跟着来。）这就是蒂莫西·米勒博士（Dr Timothy Miller）的优秀著作《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）的核心论点。它改变了我的人生。
…you already have. How? Practice three things: Compassion, Attention, and Gratitude. (Pick any two, and the third will follow almost automatically.) That's the central thesis of an excellent book, "How to Want What You Have" by Dr Timothy Miller. It changed my life.
表达感恩是让一天变得更美好的最稳妥途径之一。我最喜欢的书之一——蒂姆·米勒博士（Tim Miller, PhD）的《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）——核心论点就是：1. 大多数人相对都不快乐；2. 根本原因是我们总是倾向于想要“更多”[金钱/权力、爱、认可]——这……
Expressing gratitude is one of the surest paths to a better day. One of my all-time favorite books -- "How to Want What You Have" by Tim Miller, PhD -- has as its central thesis the idea that: 1. Most people are relatively unhappy; 2. The root cause is our tendency always to want More [money/power, love, recognition] -- which…
……要是……就好了”，因为我经历过那种“要是……就好了”。（没有其他选择其实是一条出奇有效的通往幸福的途径。（参见：《撞上幸福》（Stumbling on Happiness））。与该话题相关的另一本好书是《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）。https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/933037.How_to_Want_What_...
…only...." because I've done the "if only." (Not having other options is actually a surprisingly effective route to happiness. (See: Stumbling on Happiness)). Another great book related to this topic is "How to Want What You Have." https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/933037.How_to_Want_What_...
写得太棒了。我有好几本相关的书想加进你的书单，但这本尤其让我走上了你我都在探寻并推崇的那种实用哲学之路：《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have，作者 Timothy Miller）
Wonderful post. I have a number of related books I'd add to your list, but this one in particular got me started on a path to the kind of practical philosophy you and I both seek and extoll: "How to Want What You Have" (Timothy Miller)
……通常极不擅长预测未来以及搞清楚到底什么才能让自己快乐。对于任何可能会想“只要我能做到 X 我就会快乐……”的人来说，这都是一个警示故事。接着再读蒂莫西·雷·米勒的《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have），你就拿到了一张通往幸福的处方。
…generally extremely bad at predicting the future and figuring out what actually will make them happy. It's a cautionary tale for anyone who might think "If only I could do X I'd be happy..." Follow that with "How to Want What You Have," by Timothy Ray Miller, and you have a prescription for happiness.
有一本书可能很好地捕捉并阐述了上述内容（尤其是关于谦逊）：蒂莫西·米勒的《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）：http://www.amazon.com/How-Want-What-You-Have/dp/0805033173 典型的“西方”幸福方式是：“我拥有 X 但我想要 Y，所以为了快乐我必须得到 Y。”这种……
A book that may capture and elaborate on the above (esp. re: modesty) is "How to Want What You Have" by Timothy Miller: http://www.amazon.com/How-Want-What-You-Have/dp/0805033173 The typical "western" approach to happiness is: "I have X but I want Y, therefore, to be happy I need to achieve Y." This…
……你已经拥有的东西。怎么做？践行三件事：同理心（Compassion）、专注（Attention）和感恩（Gratitude）。（任意挑两件，第三件几乎自然而然就会跟着来。）这就是蒂莫西·米勒博士（Dr Timothy Miller）的优秀著作《如何想要你所拥有的》（How to Want What You Have）的核心论点。它改变了我的人生。
…you already have. How? Practice three things: Compassion, Attention, and Gratitude. (Pick any two, and the third will follow almost automatically.) That's the central thesis of an excellent book, "How to Want What You Have" by Dr Timothy Miller. It changed my life.