抓紧你的孩子
Hold on to your kids
Gordon Neufeld、Gabor Maté · 初版 2004 年
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为什么值得读
- 提醒父母信任直觉而非盲从育儿专家
- 强调父母在孩子生命中的重要性应胜过同伴
- 指出幼年关键期投入陪伴可带来长期回报
加拿大医生Neufeld和Maté某天突然察觉到，他们的孩子变得孤僻隐秘、难以接近。孩子们一心只想和同龄朋友待在一起，面对成年人则退缩不前甚至心生敌意。为何会这样？Neufeld与合著者Maté指出，根源在于一种根深蒂固却值得商榷的观念：即越早掌握获得社会认可的规则就越容易走向成功。书中指出，在一个重经济轻文化的社会中，建立牢固的成人与儿童依恋关系往往被忽视湮没。频繁的玩伴聚会、日托班、学前班及课外活动
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……没错：作为父母，面对自己的孩子，我们应该更多地相信自己的直觉，而不是听信“专家”和其他人所谓对孩子最好的说法。一本关于育儿（如果你家孩子比较大了也适用）的好书是 Gordon Neufeld 写的《Hold on to your Kids》（抓住你的孩子）。强烈推荐。
…true: as parents we should trust our intuition with our kids much more, instead of what "experts" and other people say is best for them. A great book about parenthood (if you have older children too) is "Hold on to your Kids" by Gordon Neufeld. Highly recommended.
有一本探讨父母为何至关重要的好书，针对的就是 Harris 的观点：临床心理学家 Gordon Neufeld 写的《Hold on to Your Kids》。参见：http://www.gordonneufeld.com/book.php
There is a good book about why parents matter, that addresses Harris's ideas: Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld, a clinical psychologist. See: http://www.gordonneufeld.com/book.php
真希望我早点读过 Gabor Mate 医生和 Gordon Neufeld 合著的《Hold on to your kids》。这是他们官网上该书的第一章：https://drgabormate.com/book/hold-on-to-your-kids/hold-on-to... 从 0 到 5 岁有一段窗口期，在这期间孩子的关键方面、他们的……
I wish I had read Gabor Mate MD and Gordon Neufeld's book "Hold on to your kids" Here's Chapter one from the book on their website: https://drgabormate.com/book/hold-on-to-your-kids/hold-on-to... There is a window of time from ages 0 to 5 in which critical aspects of a child, their…
……你以后会有更多时间。现在正是尽可能多把注意力投入到孩子身上的时刻。这是你现在能做出的、日后将带来巨大回报的投资。推荐阅读：Gordon Neufeld 和 Gabor Mate 合著的《Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers》https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter/dp/0375...
…you will have more time later. Now is the time to invest as much attention as you can into your child. It is the investment you can make now that will pay off massively later on. Recommended reading: Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter/dp/0375...
……拜数字化通讯所赐，节奏快得飞起——感谢 Facebook。对于我们这种社会性物种来说，这简直是未知的狂风巨浪。X 上有个不错的总结——请忽略那个土得掉渣的用户名。Gabor Mate 的《Hold on to your Kids》里也有类似观点。https://twitter.com/TheBrometheus/status/1725303595908628684 “大多数人利用心理咨询的方式，本该是人类用来与我们那 5 套安全网系统建立连接的方式，甚至直到 100 年前我们都还保留着这些系统：……
…pace, thanks to digital comms -- thanks facebook. Uncharted rough waters for a social species like ourselves. A good summary on X -- please ignore the tacky username. Similar sentiments in Gabor Mate's 'Hold on to your Kids'. https://twitter.com/TheBrometheus/status/1725303595908628684 "Most people use therapy the way humans are meant to connect with our 5 safety net systems, which we retained even up to 100 years ago:…
……替代不了觉察、与孩子深度且有意义的联结、赋予他们丰富充实的线下生活，以及教会他们如何应对危险而非把他们与现实隔绝。《Hold on to your kids》[1]，抓紧你的孩子，你就用不着去刺探他们，而是能真正了解他们。是的，家长控制在理论上确实能提供多得多的保护。但考虑到科技、资本主义以及整个美国的走向……
…substitution for awareness, deep meaningful connection with your child, giving them a rich and fulfilling offline life, teaching them how to navigate dangers rather than isolating them from reality. Hold on to your kids[1] and instead of having to spy on them you will know them. Yes, Parental controls could, in theory, provide many many more protections. But given the trajectory of tech, capitalism, and the USA at large…