如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说
How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk
Adele Faber、Elaine Mazlish · 初版 1980 年
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为什么值得读
- 提供切实可行的共情与倾听沟通技巧
- 教你如何带着同理心向孩子设立边界
- 实用技巧同样适用于各类成年人人际关系
你可以停止与孩子发生争吵了！这本畅销书将为你提供所需的实用技巧，让你在教育孩子时更具成效，同时也更能关照自己。Adele Faber 与 Elaine Mazlish 务实而充满尊重的方法赢得了全球父母和专业人士的热烈赞誉，让与各年龄段孩子的相处少一分压力，多一分收获。如今，在这本三十周年纪念版中，两位屡获殊荣的专家根据多年来收到的反馈，分享了她们的最新见解与建议。她们的沟通方法
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话又说回来，要是有人更想要那种拿来就能用的实操技巧，《如何说 孩子才会听，怎么听 孩子才肯说》（How To Talk So Kids Will Listen... And Listen So Kids Will Talk）这本书也非常棒——对各种人际关系都管用。它不仅讲了共情（真正倾听并认可对方的情绪），而且很大程度上讲的是如何通过鼓励来激发外在动机……
Then again, if one is more interested in practically applicable tips, the book How To Talk So Kids Will Listen... And Listen So Kids Will Talk is great too -- for all kinds of interpersonal relationships. It covers empathy (actually listening and confirming feelings) but is largely about how to enable extrinsic motivation, through encouraging…
……你可以尊重她面对分别时的难过情绪，也可以分享自己要和她分开的伤心感受——然后再离开。有边界才是真正的爱。阿黛尔·法伯写过一本神作叫《如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说》。我觉得这绝对是教人如何充满同理心地给孩子树立边界的最佳书籍。至于财务方面：我之所以这么推测，是因为你更希望父母来帮忙，而不是……
…You can honor her feelings of sadness at the separation and share your own feelings of being sad that you'll be apart - and then leave. Boundaries are love. Adele Faber wrote a phenomenal book called "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk." I think it is hands down the best book on compassionately communicating boundaries to children. With regards to finances: I'm reading this into it since you'd prefer to have your parents help rather…
那本《如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说》，自从我们几十年前发现它以后，就一直是我们（丁克）家里的常备书。我们向新婚夫妇和新手爸妈推荐这本书的狂热程度，说出来都让人不好意思。它一部分是关于共情，但……
That book, How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk has been a staple in our (childless) household since we discovered it decades ago. The extent to which we recommend it to new couples and new parents is embarrassing. It's partially about empathy, but…
《如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说》——阿黛尔·法伯和伊莱恩·马兹利什著 这本书彻底改变了我与我3岁孩子的相处方式。 它还改变了我与成年人的沟通方式。 http://amzn.com/1451663889
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" - by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish This book has been life-changing with regards to my relationship with my 3-year-old. It also changed the way I communicate with adults. http://amzn.com/1451663889
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