…to create a high-trust, less authoritarian, open, collaborative environment within a traditional hierarchy: Marquet, Leadership is Language. 5. Communication: Voss, Never Split the Difference. Faber, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. 6. How to help organisations who don't want to admit what their problem is: Weinberg, Secrets of Consulting. 7. How to structure organisations and processes to deliver maximum value: Reinertsen, Principles…
I’ve “read” 19 books this year (thanks Audible) These were my faves: “Wolf hall” by Hilary Mantell “The Selfish Gene” by Richard Dawkins “Never Split the difference” by Chris Voss “How to talk so kids will listen” by Joanna Faber & Julie King
…suggestions: The Gardener and the Carpenter Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war... The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline That Really Works! How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child And Baby Makes Three The Rational Male - Positive Masculinity Parenting With Love And Logic
…and do, and ability to influence decisions. If you feel like the middle manager is powerless, these are exactly the types of books to read. Other recommendations include High Output Management, Drive, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen (I'm serious), Turn the Ship Around, Out of the Crisis, and more.
…unless they emphasize independent thinking. Personally I try to avoid telling children what exactly to do and try to listen to them, essentially treating them like adults: this is explained in the book "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen". "Resistance to being told what to think" is given in this essay as working with curiosity, but I think it can also have a negative feedback. The independent thinker can be less curious about ideas…
…for their positive behaviours - "look how many beans you've got. Great job! You've worked really hard for this." You might also want to consider seeking a diagnosis for ADD or similar. There's also "how to talk so kids will listen" which seems to get metioned in conversations like this. (Sorry, on terrible monile at the moment so unable to provide links).
……在传统层级体系内打造一个高信任度、少点独裁、开放且协作的环境：马凯特，《语言即领导力》。5. 沟通技巧：沃斯，《掌控谈判》；法伯，《如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说》。6. 如何帮助那些不愿承认自身问题的组织：温伯格，《咨询的奥秘》。7. 如何构建组织和流程以实现价值最大化：莱纳特森，《原则……
…to create a high-trust, less authoritarian, open, collaborative environment within a traditional hierarchy: Marquet, Leadership is Language. 5. Communication: Voss, Never Split the Difference. Faber, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. 6. How to help organisations who don't want to admit what their problem is: Weinberg, Secrets of Consulting. 7. How to structure organisations and processes to deliver maximum value: Reinertsen, Principles…
我今年“读”了 19 本书（感谢 Audible），这几本是我的最爱：希拉里·曼特尔的《狼厅》、理查德·道金斯的《自私的基因》、克里斯·沃斯的《掌控谈判》、乔安娜·法伯和朱莉·金的《如何说孩子才会听》
I’ve “read” 19 books this year (thanks Audible) These were my faves: “Wolf hall” by Hilary Mantell “The Selfish Gene” by Richard Dawkins “Never Split the difference” by Chris Voss “How to talk so kids will listen” by Joanna Faber & Julie King
……建议：《园丁与木匠》、《生更多孩子的自私理由》https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war...、《规矩孩子：真正管用的管教法！》、《如何说孩子才会听》、《培养高情商的孩子》、《当两人变成三人》、《理性男性 - 积极男性气概》、《用爱与逻辑育儿》
…suggestions: The Gardener and the Carpenter Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war... The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline That Really Works! How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child And Baby Makes Three The Rational Male - Positive Masculinity Parenting With Love And Logic
……以及做事方式，还有影响决策的能力。如果你觉得中层管理者毫无权力，这些书正是你该读的。其他推荐还包括《高产出管理》、《驱动力》、《如何说孩子才会听》（我是认真的）、《把船调头》、《走出危机》等等。
…and do, and ability to influence decisions. If you feel like the middle manager is powerless, these are exactly the types of books to read. Other recommendations include High Output Management, Drive, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen (I'm serious), Turn the Ship Around, Out of the Crisis, and more.
……除非他们强调独立思考。就我个人而言，我尽量避免明确命令孩子该做什么，而是努力倾听他们，基本上把他们当成大人对待：这在《如何说孩子才会听》一书中有过解释。本文把“抗拒被别人教唆该怎么想”视作与好奇心协同作用，但我认为这也会产生负反馈。独立思考者可能会对……的新想法缺乏好奇心
…unless they emphasize independent thinking. Personally I try to avoid telling children what exactly to do and try to listen to them, essentially treating them like adults: this is explained in the book "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen". "Resistance to being told what to think" is given in this essay as working with curiosity, but I think it can also have a negative feedback. The independent thinker can be less curious about ideas…
……来强化他们的积极行为——“看你集了多少颗豆子，太棒了！你真的很努力才得到的。”你也可以考虑去医院查查是不是有 ADD 之类的问题。另外还有一本《如何说孩子才会听》，在这种讨论里经常被提及。（抱歉，现在手机信号烂透了，发不了链接）。
…for their positive behaviours - "look how many beans you've got. Great job! You've worked really hard for this." You might also want to consider seeking a diagnosis for ADD or similar. There's also "how to talk so kids will listen" which seems to get metioned in conversations like this. (Sorry, on terrible monile at the moment so unable to provide links).