……当你生气、沮丧或者单纯很累的时候，想幽默起来往往很难。所以我很赞同一点点读、反复读是有帮助的。这些建议可不容易坚持。作为配套读物，像《正面管教》（Positive Discipline）[1]这样的育儿书或许值得翻一翻。这类育儿书跟《如何说孩子才会听》（How to Talk）以及这个帖子里提到的其他书（比如《关键对话》（Crucial Conversation））有相通之处。让人大开眼界。（而且我意识到……
…funny is often tough when you're angry, frustrated or just tired. So I agreed that piece-by-piece reading and re-reading help. These tips aren't easy to stick. As a companion, some parenting books like Positive Discipline [1] might be worth a quick glance. These parenting books have certain similarities with "How to Talk" and some other books in this thread, like "Crucial Conversation". It's eye-opening. (And I realized…
我女儿现在三岁半。很高兴你问了这个问题。千万别那么做。我推荐这个系列的书，尤其是《正面管教：0-3岁孩子的情商与智商开发》（Positive Discipline: The First Three Years）https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804141185/ 顺便提醒一下看到这里的各位，别被书名里的“discipline”（管教）带偏了。作者其实是反对惩罚的。
My daughter is 3.5 years old. Great that you asked. Please don’t do that. I can recommend this book series and in particular “Positive Discipline: The First Three Years” https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804141185/ For anyone reading this, don’t get caught up by the “discipline” in the book title. The authors are against punishment.
…this discussion. It has no place here, children are more important than that. If you want to have a scientific approach, pick up some psychology books. I think the best book from raising children is Positive Discipline, Outside of that, the best way to be a dad is to constantly remind your children you love them, give them lots of hugs, and remember to support their interests, not yours.
…salespeople? It depends on the context. Maybe you needed to learn something, maybe he did, or maybe you both did. Many parenting books do not regard this as "Punishment", yet it is still discipline. See "Positive Discipline" for more on this topic.
……当你生气、沮丧或者单纯很累的时候，想幽默起来往往很难。所以我很赞同一点点读、反复读是有帮助的。这些建议可不容易坚持。作为配套读物，像《正面管教》（Positive Discipline）[1]这样的育儿书或许值得翻一翻。这类育儿书跟《如何说孩子才会听》（How to Talk）以及这个帖子里提到的其他书（比如《关键对话》（Crucial Conversation））有相通之处。让人大开眼界。（而且我意识到……
…funny is often tough when you're angry, frustrated or just tired. So I agreed that piece-by-piece reading and re-reading help. These tips aren't easy to stick. As a companion, some parenting books like Positive Discipline [1] might be worth a quick glance. These parenting books have certain similarities with "How to Talk" and some other books in this thread, like "Crucial Conversation". It's eye-opening. (And I realized…
我女儿现在三岁半。很高兴你问了这个问题。千万别那么做。我推荐这个系列的书，尤其是《正面管教：0-3岁孩子的情商与智商开发》（Positive Discipline: The First Three Years）https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804141185/ 顺便提醒一下看到这里的各位，别被书名里的“discipline”（管教）带偏了。作者其实是反对惩罚的。
My daughter is 3.5 years old. Great that you asked. Please don’t do that. I can recommend this book series and in particular “Positive Discipline: The First Three Years” https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804141185/ For anyone reading this, don’t get caught up by the “discipline” in the book title. The authors are against punishment.
去读读 Jane Nelsen 写的《正面管教》吧。这是一本经典之作，里面的经验至关重要。
Read Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen. It's a classic and it's lessons are key.
Jane Nelsen 写的《正面管教》这本书对我们的教育方式也起到了关键作用。
The book 'Positive Discipline' by Jane Nelsen was also instrumental to our approach.
……这种讨论。这里不适合聊这个，孩子比这些争论重要得多。如果你想用科学的方法，就去读读心理学方面的书。我认为育儿方面最好的书就是《正面管教》。除此之外，做一个好父亲最好的方式，就是不断提醒孩子你爱他们，多给他们拥抱，并且记住要支持他们的兴趣，而不是你自己的兴趣。
…this discussion. It has no place here, children are more important than that. If you want to have a scientific approach, pick up some psychology books. I think the best book from raising children is Positive Discipline, Outside of that, the best way to be a dad is to constantly remind your children you love them, give them lots of hugs, and remember to support their interests, not yours.
……销售人员？这取决于具体语境。也许你需要学点东西，也许他需要，或者你们两个都需要。很多育儿书并不把这看作“惩罚”，但它依然属于管教。想深入了解这个话题可以参考《正面管教》。
…salespeople? It depends on the context. Maybe you needed to learn something, maybe he did, or maybe you both did. Many parenting books do not regard this as "Punishment", yet it is still discipline. See "Positive Discipline" for more on this topic.