在这方面的推荐书单：- Robert A. Glover 的《No More Mr. Nice Guy》（不再当老好人）：一本关于识别并消除“老好人”行为的绝佳好书，配有大量练习。- Manuel J. Smith 的《When I Say No I Feel Guilty》（当我说不时，我感到内疚）：提供了大量实用技巧和实例，教你如何保持坚定自信（assertive），应对别人试图PUA或操控你做事的企图。非常适合用来对付同事、伴侣、店员……
Book recommendations in that respect: - "No more Mr. Nice Guy" Robert A. Glover: A great book on identification and elimination of nice guy behaviors with lots of exercises. - "When I say no I feel guilty" Manuel J. Smith: Techniques with lots of examples on how to stay assertive and deal with attempts to manipulate you into doing something. Relevant for dealing with colleagues, spouses, shop clerks, ...…
……苦于找不到约会对象，或无法建立理想人际关系和生活的男人。这些书主要聚焦于为你自己打造良好的生活与心态，而变具吸引力只是顺带的副产品。Manuel J. Smith 的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》 Robert Glover 的《No More Mr Nice Guy》 Mark Manson 的《Models》 Nathaniel Branden 的《Taking Responsibility》
…man having trouble finding dates, or building the relationships and life they want. These mostly focus on building a good life and mental state for yourself, where becoming attractive is a byproduct. When I say no, I feel guilty by Manuel J. Smith No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover Models by Mark Manson Taking Responsibility by Nathaniel Brandon
爱比克泰德的《Discourses》（论说集）——每当思考人生中的新挑战时，常读常新，因为这些是对抗逆境、过好生活的强大工具。Manuel J. Smith 的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》——一本关于坚定果断且不耍手腕的沟通之书。它对改善我的人际关系和工作带来了难以估量的价值，也让我能够识别并抵御……
The Discourses of Epictetus - This is useful to re-read frequently while thinking about any new challenges in my life, as these are powerful tools for managing hardship and generally living well. When I say no, I feel guilty by Manuel J. Smith - a book on assertive and non-manipulative communication. This has been incredibly valuable for improving my personal relationships and work. It's also allowed me to recognize and defend…
那是焦虑症，要么自己调整自愈，如果严重的话也有药物治疗。如果仅仅是不知道怎么说“不”，去读读这本书，它帮到了很多人：Manuel J. Smith 写的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》
That is anxiety, you either teach yourself or there is medication if there is bad enough. If it is just about saying 'no', read this book, it's helped a lot of people: When I say no, I feel guilty Book by Manuel J. Smith
在这方面的推荐书单：- Robert A. Glover 的《No More Mr. Nice Guy》（不再当老好人）：一本关于识别并消除“老好人”行为的绝佳好书，配有大量练习。- Manuel J. Smith 的《When I Say No I Feel Guilty》（当我说不时，我感到内疚）：提供了大量实用技巧和实例，教你如何保持坚定自信（assertive），应对别人试图PUA或操控你做事的企图。非常适合用来对付同事、伴侣、店员……
Book recommendations in that respect: - "No more Mr. Nice Guy" Robert A. Glover: A great book on identification and elimination of nice guy behaviors with lots of exercises. - "When I say no I feel guilty" Manuel J. Smith: Techniques with lots of examples on how to stay assertive and deal with attempts to manipulate you into doing something. Relevant for dealing with colleagues, spouses, shop clerks, ...…
……苦于找不到约会对象，或无法建立理想人际关系和生活的男人。这些书主要聚焦于为你自己打造良好的生活与心态，而变具吸引力只是顺带的副产品。Manuel J. Smith 的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》 Robert Glover 的《No More Mr Nice Guy》 Mark Manson 的《Models》 Nathaniel Branden 的《Taking Responsibility》
…man having trouble finding dates, or building the relationships and life they want. These mostly focus on building a good life and mental state for yourself, where becoming attractive is a byproduct. When I say no, I feel guilty by Manuel J. Smith No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover Models by Mark Manson Taking Responsibility by Nathaniel Brandon
有一本书正好讲到了这个，可能对你有帮助：Manuel J. Smith 写的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》（当我说不时，我感到内疚）
There's a book that addresses that, and might be helpful to you: "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" - Manuel J. Smith
爱比克泰德的《Discourses》（论说集）——每当思考人生中的新挑战时，常读常新，因为这些是对抗逆境、过好生活的强大工具。Manuel J. Smith 的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》——一本关于坚定果断且不耍手腕的沟通之书。它对改善我的人际关系和工作带来了难以估量的价值，也让我能够识别并抵御……
The Discourses of Epictetus - This is useful to re-read frequently while thinking about any new challenges in my life, as these are powerful tools for managing hardship and generally living well. When I say no, I feel guilty by Manuel J. Smith - a book on assertive and non-manipulative communication. This has been incredibly valuable for improving my personal relationships and work. It's also allowed me to recognize and defend…
《When I Say No I Feel Guilty》、《Never Split The Difference》（掌控谈资）、《The Gift of Fear》（恐惧的本能）。就这三本。
When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Never Split The Difference. The Gift of Fear. Those 3.
那是焦虑症，要么自己调整自愈，如果严重的话也有药物治疗。如果仅仅是不知道怎么说“不”，去读读这本书，它帮到了很多人：Manuel J. Smith 写的《When I Say No, I Feel Guilty》
That is anxiety, you either teach yourself or there is medication if there is bad enough. If it is just about saying 'no', read this book, it's helped a lot of people: When I say no, I feel guilty Book by Manuel J. Smith