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Conscious loving
Gay Hendricks、Kathlyn Hendricks · 初版 1990 年
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这里有一套强有力的全新方案，能清除那些甚至会破坏你最美好初衷的无意识契约模式。通过自身的婚姻历程以及二十年来为一千多对伴侣咨询的经验，治疗师 Gay 和 Kathlyn Hendricks 总结出了一套精确的策略，助您建立充满生机的伴侣关系，并提升每个人的活力、创造力与幸福感。您将学习如何：摆脱权力争夺与控制欲；平衡亲密与独立的需求；通过吐露“微观真相”来增进亲密度；……
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……亲密关系总出问题？我摔过的跟头早就远超常人了（包括离过一次婚），直到 32 岁我才觉得自己算“开窍了”。尽管如此，我还是要推荐 Gay 和 Kathlyn Hendricks 合著的《Conscious Loving》。他们没有像讲金星火星那些畅销书一样浮于表面，而是直击问题核心，让我们审视自己内心的执念、秘密……
…problems with relationships? I've done more than my fair share of stumbling (including one divorce) and at the age of 32 only now do I feel like I am "getting it". Nonetheless, I'd recommend the book _Conscious Loving_ by Gay and Kaithlyn Hendricks. Instead of the superficialities preached by the Venus books, etc they get to the heart of the matter by having us examine ourselves for personal projects, secrets that…
情感关系专家 Kathlyn Hendricks（《Conscious Loving》对试图处理亲密关系的理工男/工程师思维的人来说，是一本妙趣横生的书）针对何时该结束一段私人感情给出了这样的建议（音频的第 2 点）。也许在决定是否放弃某个点子时同样适用……
Kathlyn Hendricks, a relationship expert (_Conscious Loving_ is a fascinating book for the engineering mind dealing with relationships), offers this advice for when to leave a personal relationship (point 2 of the audio). Maybe it's applicable when pursuing ideas…
对于任何在感情中遭遇沟通障碍的人，我都极力推荐这本书：《Conscious Loving》[1]。除了读起来很享受之外，它还提供了一套极佳的框架和指南，教你如何成功展开针对棘手话题的沟通。配合《Nonviolent Communication》（非暴力沟通）一起食用更佳……
For any suffering a communication issue in your relationship, I can't recommend enough the book: "Conscious Loving" [1] Asides from being an enjoyable read, it provides an excellent framework and guide for how to have conversations about difficult topics successfully. It pairs well with the book "Nonviolent Communication"…
……把这理解成了深沉的爱是随机发生的。重新读了一遍之后，我发现作者也许本意并非如此。我只是想分享一下曾经帮我重燃亲密感的方法，而且这套方法是可以习得的。Gay 和 Kaitlyn Hendricks 写的《Conscious Loving》这本书里就提到了“微观真实”（Microscopic Truth）。它帮了我大忙。我很喜欢读他们的邮件通讯，里面详细讨论了……中的很多概念
…interpreted this as deep love being random. Maybe that wasn't the intent, after re-reading it. Just wanted to demonstrate what had worked for me to rekindle intimacy. And that it was teachable. The book "Conscious Loving" by Gay and Kaitlyn Hendricks is the book that talks about telling the Microscopic Truth. It's helped me tremendously. I enjoy their newsletter a lot. They discuss in detail many of the concepts in…
我发现，如果你在开启对话时先展现出自己的脆弱，大多数人也会愿意卸下防备。那本《Conscious Loving》里提到了“说出微观真实”（telling the microscopic truth），为如何表达混乱、复杂的情绪提供了很多实操技巧。读来令人受益匪浅，而且绝对能改善你的人际关系。
I find most people will be vulnerable if you start the conversation that way by exposing your own vulnerability. The book Conscious Loving touches on “telling the microscopic truth” which provides a lot of tactics for telling messy, complicated feelings. It’s a wonderful read and will improve your relationships.
如果你刚开始学着敞开心扉，你大概会喜欢《Conscious Loving》这本书。里面有一整节专门讲如何在关系中吐露“微观真实”（microscopic truth）。https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Co-Committment-Gay-H... 刚开始做起来会很痛苦，但随着……
If you're just learning to be open, you'd probably enjoy the book, Conscious Loving. There's a whole section dedicated to telling the "microscopic truth" in your relationships. https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Co-Committment-Gay-H... Painful to do in the beginning, but as…