…self-esteem. It's what's telling you that there can't be anybody else after her. But yes there can. Read up on some books regarding how couples split up. A good one for me (but 30 years ago) was a book called 'Passages' by Gail Sheehy, which explained what mental and emotional changes occur in people as they get older and go through the various stepping-stones of life. I was able to see why my wife left me too. And…
Read Gail Sheehy's Passages. It talks about the different phases of life - life in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s etc. Without that reference, when there's unease it's hard to know what's "you" and what's "just being human". I certainly…
Read Passages by Gail Sheehy. Was close pre-teen, while a goody two-shoes, I pushed them away a bit teen years (most of which were spent away at school). Got rather frustrated with them early working/married years…
Read Sheehy's Passages. This has a complex answer that seems well-addressed in the comments: 0-10, parents usually cool, 11-22, parents usually annoying as hell, 23-40, broad range of feelings towards parents, 50-60, (re)appreciate…
There is this book https://www.amazon.com/Passages-Predictable-Crises-Adult-Lif... which factually points out that most people go through several crises in their adult life. As a rule of thumb you have one every seven years or so. I had one around…
……自尊心。正是它在告诉你没了她就再也不会有别人了。但其实完全会有。去读几本关于伴侣分手的书吧。对我很有启发的一本（不过那是30年前了）是盖尔·希伊（Gail Sheehy）写的《Passages》，它解释了随着人慢慢变老、经历人生的各个台阶时，内心和情感上会发生怎样的变化。我也得以明白我妻子当年为什么离开我。还有……
…self-esteem. It's what's telling you that there can't be anybody else after her. But yes there can. Read up on some books regarding how couples split up. A good one for me (but 30 years ago) was a book called 'Passages' by Gail Sheehy, which explained what mental and emotional changes occur in people as they get older and go through the various stepping-stones of life. I was able to see why my wife left me too. And…
去读读盖尔·希伊的《Passages》。它讲了人生的不同阶段——20多岁、30多岁、40多岁、50多岁、60多岁等等的人生状态。要是没有这个参照系，一旦心里焦虑不安，你很难分清到底哪些是“你自身的问题”，哪些只是“身为人类的正常反应”。我肯定……
Read Gail Sheehy's Passages. It talks about the different phases of life - life in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s etc. Without that reference, when there's unease it's hard to know what's "you" and what's "just being human". I certainly…
去读读盖尔·希伊的《Passages》。青春期前我和父母挺亲近的，那时候是个乖乖仔；十几岁的时候（大部分时间都在寄宿学校度过）我有点把他们推开。刚参加工作和刚结婚那几年对他们相当心烦……
Read Passages by Gail Sheehy. Was close pre-teen, while a goody two-shoes, I pushed them away a bit teen years (most of which were spent away at school). Got rather frustrated with them early working/married years…
去读希伊的《Passages》。这个问题有个复杂的答案，评论区似乎总结得很到位：0到10岁，父母通常挺棒；11到22岁，父母通常烦人得要命；23到40岁，对父母的情感跨度很大；50到60岁，（重新）学会欣赏……
Read Sheehy's Passages. This has a complex answer that seems well-addressed in the comments: 0-10, parents usually cool, 11-22, parents usually annoying as hell, 23-40, broad range of feelings towards parents, 50-60, (re)appreciate…
有这么一本书 https://www.amazon.com/Passages-Predictable-Crises-Adult-Lif...，它客观地指出大多数人在成年生活中都会经历几次危机。根据经验法则，大约每七年就会来一次。我是在……左右经历了一次
There is this book https://www.amazon.com/Passages-Predictable-Crises-Adult-Lif... which factually points out that most people go through several crises in their adult life. As a rule of thumb you have one every seven years or so. I had one around…
我记错了：那本书的书名是盖尔·希伊写的《Passages》。我上面那个让人费解的手误，本来应该是“I'm not sure”，而不是“I'm so sure”
I mis-remembered: The Book was titled "Passages" by Gail Sheehy. And my confusing typo above was supposed be "I'm not sure" instead of "I'm so sure"