积极说“不”的力量
The Power of a Positive No
William Ury · 初版 2007 年
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“No”也许是语言中最重要、毫无疑问也是最有力的词汇。每天我们都会身处需要说“No”的情境——在职场、家庭和社区中面对不同的人——因为“No”是我们用以保护自我、捍卫所有对我们至关重要的人与事所必需的词。但众所周知，不恰当的拒绝也会因疏远和激怒他人而毁掉我们最珍视的一切。因此，以正确的方式说“No”至关重要。既能拒绝他人又不破坏人际关系的秘诀就在于 Positive No 的艺术，这是一套行之有效的技巧，任何人……
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在这方面帮了我大忙的一本书：哈佛谈判项目联合创始人威廉·尤里（William Ury）写的《The Power of a Positive No: Save The Deal, Save The Relationship and Still Say No》（积极Say No的力量：保住交易、维系关系的同时依然拒绝）。
A book that helped me a lot in this regard: - "The Power of a Positive No: Save The Deal, Save The Relationship and Still Say No" by William Ury, the Co-Founder of the Harvard Program on Negotiation
……不断推掉客户出于好意却不合理的要求。学会怎么反复说“不”，同时又不显得懒惰或混蛋，是一项极其重要的技能。为了在这个领域汲取智慧，我读了威廉·尤里（凭借《Getting to Yes》一书成名）写的《The Power of a Positive No》。现在，我会把它推荐给我认识的每一个工程师（和经理）。如果人人都读尤里的书，世界会快乐得多，……
…off well-meaning, but unreasonable requests from clients on a continual basis. Learning how to say "No" repeatedly without coming across as lazy or a jerk is an extremely important skill. I read "The Power of a Positive No" by William Ury (of "Getting to Yes" fame) looking for wisdom in that area. Now, I recommend it to every engineer (and manager) that I know. If everyone read Ury's books, the world would be a much happier,…
“学会拒绝的力量太强大了，这不是你随便学学就能一直坚持的事——你必须每天提醒自己，说不完全没问题。”我快把威廉·尤里写的《The Power of a Positive No》读完了[1]，写得非常好。核心观点是：正因为你对某件事说了“好”（比如过好自己的生活），你才更容易对另一件事说“不”（比如额外的加班）。非常值得一读！[1]……
"Saying no is so powerful and it isn't something you can easily learn and just stick with - you have to remind yourself it's OK to to say no every day" I am almost finished reading "The Power of a Positive No" by William Ury [1], and it's very good. The main idea is that because you say yes to something (e.g. having a life), it's easier to say no to something else (e.g. extra work). Well worth the read! [1]…
凭借《Getting to Yes》成名的威廉·尤里还写过一本名为《The Power of a Positive No》的书，直接回答了你的问题。所有软件开发者都应该把它列为必读书目。http://www.williamury.com/books/the-power-of-a-positive-no/ 说真的，如果地球上每个人都读过那些……
William Ury, of "Getting to Yes" fame, also has a book titled "The Power of a Positive No" that directly addresses your question. It should be required reading for all software developers. http://www.williamury.com/books/the-power-of-a-positive-no/ Really, if everyone on Earth read those…
关于怎么说不——我非常喜欢威廉·尤里在《The Power of a Positive No》里描述的方式。书里的核心思想可以概括为：Yes! No. Yes?（好的！不行。这样行吗？）当你拒绝某件事时，背后是有原因的。比如，你拒绝加班，是因为你想花时间陪……
Regarding saying no - I really like the way described in "The Power of a Positive No" by William Ury. The main idea in the book can be described as: Yes! No. Yes? When you say no to something, there is a reason. For example, you say no to working late, because you want to spend time with…
1. 《The power of a positive no》（积极Say No的力量） 2. 《黑匣子思维》（Black box thinking） 3. 《关键对话》（Difficult conversations） 4. 《超越失去》（Transcending loss） 5. 《勇闯荒野》（Braving the wilderness） 6. 《无母之女》（Motherless daughters） 7. 《中庸之道》（The happy medium） 8. 《深度工作》（Deep work） 9. 《爱比克泰德金言录》（The golden sayings of Epictetus） 10. 《最佳……
1. The power of a positive no 2. Black box thinking 3. Difficult conversations 4. Transcending loss 5. Braving the wilderness 6. Motherless daughters 7. The happy medium 8. Deep work 9. The golden sayings of Epictetus 10. The best…