我不想谈这个
I don't want to talk about it
Terrence Real · 初版 1997 年
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Terrence Real 解释了许多男性如何因觉得抑郁症带有“不够男子气概”的耻辱感，从而对家人、朋友乃至对自己隐瞒病情。他将一个长期以来被忽视的话题公开化。
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I don't want to talk about it
Terrence Real · 初版 1997 年
Terrence Real 解释了许多男性如何因觉得抑郁症带有“不够男子气概”的耻辱感，从而对家人、朋友乃至对自己隐瞒病情。他将一个长期以来被忽视的话题公开化。
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几个月前我的心理咨询师给我推荐了一本书，读完真的改变了我的生活。书名叫《I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression》，作者是 Terrence Real。可以在这里看简介 https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Talk-About-Overcoming/dp/06... 这本书的核心论点是抑郁症如何……
My therapist recommended a book to me a few months ago, and reading it honestly changed my life. It's called, "I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression", by Terrence Real. Read the summary here https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Talk-About-Overcoming/dp/06... The thesis of the book is about how depression…
《I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Legacy of Male Depression》，作者是关系治疗师 Terrence Real。这本出版了 20 年的书里的理念最近才刚开始流行起来，但核心思想就是抑郁症的表现……
"I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Legacy of Male Depression" by Terrence Real, a relational therapist. The ideas in this 20-year-old book are just starting to catch traction, but basically it's that depression manifests…
……你甚至都无法让孩子喜欢你，更不可能掌控他们。所以不管你做什么，做选择或不做选择都是你的事。一些对我有帮助的东西：听听 Terrence Real 的有声书《I don't want to talk about it》。继续做心理咨询，如果现在的咨询师没用，不妨换一个。听起来你很理智、爱动脑子，所以你可能需要读很多自助类书籍去搞明白……
…that you can't even make your kids like you, you certainly can't control them. So whatever you do, choosing or not choosing is your choice. Some things that have helped me: Listen to the audiobook "I don't want to talk about it" by Terrence Real. Keep doing the therapy and maybe find another therapist if the one you have isn't helping. It sounds like you are cerebral so you may need to read a lot of self-help books and understand…
关于这个话题，我强烈推荐 Terry Real 的《I Don’t Want To Talk About It》，或者 bell hooks 的《The Will To Change》（大量引用了前者）。我们对于父权制通过情感忽视对男孩和成年男性造成的伤害，讨论得实在太少了……
I highly recommend I Don’t Want To Talk About It by Terry Real or The Will To Change by bell hooks (which extensively cites the former) on this topic. We don’t talk enough about the harm patriarchy inflicts on boys and men through emotional neglect…
……其他亮点：《The Anxious Generation》（Jonathan Haidt 著）；重读 Daniella Meadows 的《Thinking in Systems》；重读 Jon Kabat Zinn 的《Wherever You Go There You Are》；Zoe Schlanger 的《The Light Eaters》；Terrence Real 的《I Don't Want to Talk About It》。
…Other highlights: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt; re-read Thinking in Systems by Daniella Meadows; re-read Wherever You Go There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn; The light eaters by Zoe Schlanger; I don't want to talk about it, by Terrence Real.
这里的高赞评论推荐了 Emile Durkheim 的《Suicide》，确实是非常好的推荐。我想推荐另一本，专门讲男性抑郁症的，叫《I Don't Want to Talk About It》，作者是 Terrence Real [1]。众所周知，尽管确诊抑郁症的女性更多，但自杀的男性却远多于女性。书中指出，这是因为男性抑郁往往并不显性，而是……
The top comment here recommends Emile Durkheim's Suicide book, which is a very good recommendation. I want to recommend another one, specifically about male depression, called I Don't Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real [1]. It's known that more men than women commit suicide, although more women are diagnosed with depression. The book argues that it's because male depression is often not overt, but…