我正在读西奥多·赖克（Theodore Reik）的《Love and Lust》（爱与欲），我真希望自己在35年前就读到了它。1945年到现代之间肯定发生了什么事情，把我们的文化像臭氧层一样给彻底冲垮了。现在常规的相处方式根本行不通。我个……
I am reading ‘Love and Lust’ by Theodore Reik and I wish it had found me 35 years ago. Something happened between 1945 and the present that blew out our culture like the ozone layer. Ordinary approaches don’t work today. I for…
……挺有意思：- Davis Murray 写的《Intimate relations》（亲密关系，1973）— https://archive.org/details/intimaterelation00davi_0/ - Deborah Tannen 写的《You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation》（你就是不懂：男女对话录，1990）- Theodor Reik 写的《Of Love And Lust On The Psychoanalysis Of Romantic And Sexual Emotions》（爱与欲：论浪漫与性情感的精神分析，1957）— https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.60891/
…interesting: - Intimate relations (1973) by Davis Murray — https://archive.org/details/intimaterelation00davi_0/ - You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (1990) by Deborah Tannen - Of Love And Lust On The Psychoanalysis Of Romantic And Sexual Emotions (1957) by Theodor Reik — https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.60891/
I was reading Theodore reik’s book about ‘love and lust’ and it made it clear to me what I knew all along, which is that work and love are not foes but instead closely related. We went through some cultural event horizon some time between 1945 and 2000 where…
…this book https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Seduction which has a lot of fiction and non-fiction references oriented around the technology of love ("Tale of Genji", "Les liaisons dangereuses", "Love and Lust") and works over the stories of very interesting people from various directions. I have been reading the references, reading the references of those references, and going off in other adventures in…
我正在读西奥多·赖克（Theodore Reik）的《Love and Lust》（爱与欲），我真希望自己在35年前就读到了它。1945年到现代之间肯定发生了什么事情，把我们的文化像臭氧层一样给彻底冲垮了。现在常规的相处方式根本行不通。我个……
I am reading ‘Love and Lust’ by Theodore Reik and I wish it had found me 35 years ago. Something happened between 1945 and the present that blew out our culture like the ozone layer. Ordinary approaches don’t work today. I for…
……挺有意思：- Davis Murray 写的《Intimate relations》（亲密关系，1973）— https://archive.org/details/intimaterelation00davi_0/ - Deborah Tannen 写的《You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation》（你就是不懂：男女对话录，1990）- Theodor Reik 写的《Of Love And Lust On The Psychoanalysis Of Romantic And Sexual Emotions》（爱与欲：论浪漫与性情感的精神分析，1957）— https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.60891/
…interesting: - Intimate relations (1973) by Davis Murray — https://archive.org/details/intimaterelation00davi_0/ - You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (1990) by Deborah Tannen - Of Love And Lust On The Psychoanalysis Of Romantic And Sexual Emotions (1957) by Theodor Reik — https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.60891/
我之前在读 Theodore Reik 那本关于“爱与欲”的书，它让我彻底看清了一件我一直隐约知道的事：工作和爱并不是死对头，而是紧密相连的。我们在1945年到2000年之间的某个时刻跨越了某种文化事件视界（cultural event horizon），导致……
I was reading Theodore reik’s book about ‘love and lust’ and it made it clear to me what I knew all along, which is that work and love are not foes but instead closely related. We went through some cultural event horizon some time between 1945 and 2000 where…
……这本书 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Seduction 里面有大量围绕爱的技艺展开的虚构与非虚构参考资料（《源氏物语》、《危险关系》、《爱与欲》），并且从多个角度剖析了许多非常有趣的人的故事。我一直在读这些参考文献，顺藤摸瓜去读文献引用的文献，并在其他领域展开了新的探险……
…this book https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Seduction which has a lot of fiction and non-fiction references oriented around the technology of love ("Tale of Genji", "Les liaisons dangereuses", "Love and Lust") and works over the stories of very interesting people from various directions. I have been reading the references, reading the references of those references, and going off in other adventures in…