你就是不明白
You Just Don't Understand
Deborah Tannen · 初版 1990 年
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为什么值得读
- 将男女沟通冲突类比为跨文化交流障碍
- 指出男女在对话中仿佛操着完全不同的语言
- 提供改善伴侣关系与日常沟通的关键认知
坐下来读就是了。没错，你会想把它扔掉。你会想忘掉它，但这根本不可能。它会浮现在你的脑海中，并在你本只会感到沮丧时触动你。这里有一个重大失误，当你在阅读和反思它时，请忽略有关性别的言论，它们会分散注意力。性别不是答案，更多理解请参见随后的著作 That's Not What I Ment。读过之后，你对对话的理解将彻底改变。
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