自我造就的男人
Self-Made Man
Norah Vincent · 初版 2006 年
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为什么值得读
- 一年女扮男装的深度浸润式生活社会实验
- 客观展现男性在社会中面临的真实挑战与困境
- 提供关于两性约会与日常相处的细致观察切片
一位女记者以引人深思且扣人心弦的笔触记录了她女扮男装18个月的经历。Norah Vincent 随着 Self-Made Man 的出版迅速轰动媒体，这是她对身为男人究竟有多难的切身体验——即便身处男人的世界。继承 John Howard Griffin（Black Like Me）的传统，Norah 以她的男性化身 Ned 的身份度过了一年半的时间，探索在没有女性在场时男人们的真实模样。作为 Ned，她加入了一支保龄球队，从事一份高压的销售工作，与女性（和男性）约会，出入脱衣舞俱乐部，甚至成功潜入了一座修道
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……以及客套的闲聊。《He's Just Not That Into You》（其实他没那么喜欢你）——给女性看的手册，教人怎么看出一个男生其实根本不在乎她们。对了解哪些行为需要避开及其深层原因很有用。《Self-Made Man: One Woman's Journey into Manhood and Back》（自制男人）——强烈推荐这本。Norah Vincent 扮成男人生活了一年，并带回了她经历的挑战与收获。对于理解……来说极其宝贵。
…and polite conversation. [He's Just Not That Into You] - Manual for women on how to tell if a guy doesn't care about them. Useful for learning about behaviors to avoid and their underlying reasons. [Self-Made Man: One Woman's Journey into Manhood and Back] - Can't recommend this one enough. Norah Vincent lived for a year as a man, and reports back on the challenges and successes she had. Invaluable for understanding…
……商品。如果你想“切身”体会一下在“某性别主导的领域”里换成另一种性别是什么感觉，你应该走这本书作者的路子：http://www.amazon.com/Self-Made-Man-Womans-Journey-Manhood/d... 她在真正体验当今社会做男人是什么感觉方面，做得相当出色。如果有个男性也做类似的尝试，我会非常感兴趣……
…commodity. If you want a "close" approximation of figuring out what it's like to be the other gender in a "x dominated field", you should go the route of the author of this book: http://www.amazon.com/Self-Made-Man-Womans-Journey-Manhood/d... She did a remarkable job of actually experiencing what being a man in our society is like. I would be very interested if someone of the male sex were to do something similar…
多谢，我一直在找这个话题的读物。（Norah Vincent 的《Self-Made Man》也很棒——一个女人女扮男装的经历。听起来可能很轻浮或者带有偏见，其实完全不是。）
Thanks, I've been looking for reading on this topic. (Self-Made Man by Norah Vincent is also excellent - one woman's experiences disguised as a man. Sounds potentially lightweight or biased, is neither.)
……（幸好我小时候时间多，读过这本）*《思考，快与慢》*《人性的弱点》（How to Win Friends and Influence People）*《逆转》（David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants）*《Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man》*《火星救援》小说 *《How to Break a Terrorist》*《帮派领袖……
…(thankfully I read this as a kid when I had more time) * Thinking, Fast and Slow * How to Win Friends and Influence People * David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants * Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man * The Martian: A Novel * How to Break a Terrorist: The U.S. Interrogators Who Used Brains, Not Brutality, to Take Down the Deadliest Man in Iraq * Gang Leader for…
> 我并不是说初次见面就在线下面基对当事人/恋爱关系不好，我只是觉得很多人正是出于这个目的才喜欢网恋的。《Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man》（ https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143038702/ ）里讲了不少很有意思的事。这里相关的就是作者对约会的观察：她写道，自己原本以为……
> I'm not saying that it isn't better for the actual people/relationship to have the first encounter be in person, I just feel like a lot of people like online dating for that exact purpose Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143038702/ ) has quite a few interesting things to say. Relevant here are the author's observations on dating: she writes that she expected…
劝你帮自己个忙，去读读《Self-Made Man》。很明显你只看到了硬币的一面，像搞某种运动一样缺乏另一面的视角。两种性别都有各自的难处，现状导致了对……的污名化
Do yourself a favor and read "Self-Made Man". It's obvious you're only seeing this from one side of the coin and lack the perspective of the other side in some kind of crusade. Both sexes have their problems and the status quo causes stigmas for…