……故事大部分发生在纽约上游的哈德逊河上。《纳尔齐斯与歌尔德蒙》（Narcissus and Goldmund），黑塞著；小说；一部兼具趣味与文学性的冒险小说，探讨了活出真我的重要性与乐趣。《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart），佩玛·丘卓（Chödron）著；非虚构；丘卓提出，迎难而上拥抱苦难，尽可能直接、充分且毫无抗拒地去体验它，反而会带来对苦难的彻底释怀。《Enlightenment……
…that takes place largely on the Hudson River above New York "Narcissus and Goldmund" by Hesse; fiction; a fun yet literary adventure novel about the importance and fun of living life with integrity "When Things Fall Apart" by Chödron; non-fiction; Chödron proposes that leaning into suffering, experiencing it as directly and fully as possibly and without resistance paradoxically leads to profound relief from suffering "Enlightenment…
……这种事——他们根本不懂，或者他们自己也身陷囹圄，根本帮不了你。但有两本书彻底改变了我的生活，还有我最近读的第三本，可能对你也有帮助。1. 佩玛·丘卓的《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart）。这是面向应对危机的非神论佛教。去听有声书。那体验仅次于拥有一位慈爱的双亲。用心去听，并跟着做冥想（包括修心法/lo jong……
…this stuff -- they don't understand, or they're in it just like you, and can't help you OUT of it. But what really changed my life was two books, and a third I read recently that might help you too. 1. When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. It's nontheistic buddhism, for crises. Get the audio book. It's the next best thing to having a loving parent. Listen with your heart, and do the meditations (including the lo jong -…
……注：如果你在上面关于夸大狂（及其副作用）的描述中看到了自己的影子，请知悉我并不是医生。但我最力荐的是佩玛·丘卓《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart）的有声书（一定要听“有声”书）。它是一剂救命的、肯定生命的现实清醒剂。
…NB: If you recognize yourself in the descriptions of grandiosity (and its side effects) above, know that I'm not a doctor. But my best recommendation is the audiobook (specifically the AUDIO book) of When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. It's a life-saving, life-affirming dose of reality.
……在各方面彻底往好的方向改变人生。坚持下去。有时确实很难，但一切只会越来越好！编辑：我建议先从《无论走往何处，你都在那里》（Wherever You Go, There You Are）开始——然后再读佩玛·丘卓的《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart），一定要有声书和平装书“都买”。认真去听/去读。然后再随便挑一本教你对自己负责的书，成千上万本随便选，直接从……
…life in every way possible for the better. Stick with it. It's tough sometimes, but it'll only get better! EDIT: I recommend starting with "Wherever You Go, There You Are" -- then following up with "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron, be sure to get the audiobook AND the paperback. Really listen to it/read it. Then any book that teaches you to be responsible for yourself, you can pick from a million, straight up from…
……你的家人也是。选择去做你认为正确的事情会感觉非常棒。但如果你的出发点只是不想内疚，那就变味了。所以，调整心态，然后去买一本佩玛·丘卓的《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart）。如果可以的话，买有声书。边听边照着做。我向你保证，这绝对管用。
…your family, too. Choosing to do what you consider to be the right thing can feel wonderful. But not if you're only doing it because you don't want to feel guilty. So, that, and pick up a copy of of When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. If possible, the audio book. Listen to it and do what it says. I promise you, it'll help.
…http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A43006-2005Jan... My favorite intros to secular meditation (that is, non-religious Buddhism): http://www.amazon.com/Wherever-You-There-Are-ROUGH/dp/140130... http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-Fall-Apart-Difficult/dp/B0... http://www.amazon.com/Being-Nobody-Going-Nowhere-Meditations... Doing what I learned in from three, plus the Destructive Emotions audio book, absolutely transformed my life. Like…
……故事大部分发生在纽约上游的哈德逊河上。《纳尔齐斯与歌尔德蒙》（Narcissus and Goldmund），黑塞著；小说；一部兼具趣味与文学性的冒险小说，探讨了活出真我的重要性与乐趣。《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart），佩玛·丘卓（Chödron）著；非虚构；丘卓提出，迎难而上拥抱苦难，尽可能直接、充分且毫无抗拒地去体验它，反而会带来对苦难的彻底释怀。《Enlightenment……
…that takes place largely on the Hudson River above New York "Narcissus and Goldmund" by Hesse; fiction; a fun yet literary adventure novel about the importance and fun of living life with integrity "When Things Fall Apart" by Chödron; non-fiction; Chödron proposes that leaning into suffering, experiencing it as directly and fully as possibly and without resistance paradoxically leads to profound relief from suffering "Enlightenment…
……这种事——他们根本不懂，或者他们自己也身陷囹圄，根本帮不了你。但有两本书彻底改变了我的生活，还有我最近读的第三本，可能对你也有帮助。1. 佩玛·丘卓的《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart）。这是面向应对危机的非神论佛教。去听有声书。那体验仅次于拥有一位慈爱的双亲。用心去听，并跟着做冥想（包括修心法/lo jong……
…this stuff -- they don't understand, or they're in it just like you, and can't help you OUT of it. But what really changed my life was two books, and a third I read recently that might help you too. 1. When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. It's nontheistic buddhism, for crises. Get the audio book. It's the next best thing to having a loving parent. Listen with your heart, and do the meditations (including the lo jong -…
……注：如果你在上面关于夸大狂（及其副作用）的描述中看到了自己的影子，请知悉我并不是医生。但我最力荐的是佩玛·丘卓《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart）的有声书（一定要听“有声”书）。它是一剂救命的、肯定生命的现实清醒剂。
…NB: If you recognize yourself in the descriptions of grandiosity (and its side effects) above, know that I'm not a doctor. But my best recommendation is the audiobook (specifically the AUDIO book) of When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. It's a life-saving, life-affirming dose of reality.
……在各方面彻底往好的方向改变人生。坚持下去。有时确实很难，但一切只会越来越好！编辑：我建议先从《无论走往何处，你都在那里》（Wherever You Go, There You Are）开始——然后再读佩玛·丘卓的《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart），一定要有声书和平装书“都买”。认真去听/去读。然后再随便挑一本教你对自己负责的书，成千上万本随便选，直接从……
…life in every way possible for the better. Stick with it. It's tough sometimes, but it'll only get better! EDIT: I recommend starting with "Wherever You Go, There You Are" -- then following up with "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron, be sure to get the audiobook AND the paperback. Really listen to it/read it. Then any book that teaches you to be responsible for yourself, you can pick from a million, straight up from…
……你的家人也是。选择去做你认为正确的事情会感觉非常棒。但如果你的出发点只是不想内疚，那就变味了。所以，调整心态，然后去买一本佩玛·丘卓的《当一切分崩离析》（When Things Fall Apart）。如果可以的话，买有声书。边听边照着做。我向你保证，这绝对管用。
…your family, too. Choosing to do what you consider to be the right thing can feel wonderful. But not if you're only doing it because you don't want to feel guilty. So, that, and pick up a copy of of When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. If possible, the audio book. Listen to it and do what it says. I promise you, it'll help.
……http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A43006-2005Jan... 我最喜欢的世俗冥想（也就是去宗教化的佛法）入门读物：http://www.amazon.com/Wherever-You-There-Are-ROUGH/dp/140130... http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-Fall-Apart-Difficult/dp/B0... http://www.amazon.com/Being-Nobody-Going-Nowhere-Meditations... 践行从这三本书里学到的东西，再加上《毁灭性情绪》（Destructive Emotions）的有声书，彻底颠覆了我的生活。就像……
…http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A43006-2005Jan... My favorite intros to secular meditation (that is, non-religious Buddhism): http://www.amazon.com/Wherever-You-There-Are-ROUGH/dp/140130... http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-Fall-Apart-Difficult/dp/B0... http://www.amazon.com/Being-Nobody-Going-Nowhere-Meditations... Doing what I learned in from three, plus the Destructive Emotions audio book, absolutely transformed my life. Like…