……在宗教团体里经历过这种事（本身就是一个小圈子）。多亏了这段经历，我在一个新地方能极快地交到朋友，而很少有成年人懂得该怎么做。如果你打算看书，推荐读一本叫《How to influence people and make friends》的书，但千万别读那本由作者不成器的后代改得一塌糊涂的新版，去读老的原版书。不过光读书是没用的，因为你……
…did it in a religious group(a tribe in itself) Thanks to this experience I can make friends very fast in a new place, something few adults know how to do. If you are going to read, read a book called "How to influence people and make friends", but do not read the new book that is a badly revised book by the incompetent descendants of the writer, read the old original book. But reading books is not going to help because you…
Well, it can help you, but it's not "self-help." Just a lot of information on how persuasion works and how to influence people. It's considered one of the classics in that area and is - IMO - definitely worth a read.
…to make friends". I think it is the other way round. People criticize it because "How to make friends" is the first and more prominent part of the title, while the book is not primarily about that. "How to influence people" fits the content much better than "How to win friends" but "influence" isn't the most appropriate word either and I guess that would not have sold the book nearly as well as its actual title. Apart…
……受到这些社交套路和操纵？这念头真让我挺膈应的。听到一句赞美，却不知道它是真诚发自内心的，还是仅仅因为那个人上周刚读了《How to influence people and win friends》，想拿我当试验品练练他的操纵技巧。也许比起推崇这些社交话术，我们更应该提倡对真诚的重视以及保有一定的自制力……
…subject to these social tricks and manipulations? This thought truly bothers me. To hear a complement and not knowing if it was true and genuine or I was complemented simply because that person had read "How to influence people and win friends" last week and wanted to try his manipulation techniques on me. Maybe instead of promoting these social skills we need to promote the appreciation of honesty and having some self control…
我觉得如果是这样反而更好。我曾经向一位 CTO 汇报，他的圣经就是《How To Influence People and Make Friends》。他下令要在一个周末内完成 400 万条记录的迁移，因为他向 CEO 保证了“周一前一切都会搞定”，但我之前明明告诉过他，那个方案需要……
I believe it’s better if they are. I once reported to a CTO whose bible was How To Influence People and Make Friends. He ordered a migration of 4 million records to be done in a weekend because he had promised the CEO “everything would be fine by Monday” but I had told him that that plan would require…
我曾经向一位 CTO 汇报，他的圣经就是《How To Influence People and Make Friends》。而从另一面看，我也跟过一个技术很强、却既不会交朋友也不会影响他人的 CTO。最终结果就是他根本没法让高管层支持他的想法，或者……
I once reported to a CTO whose bible was How To Influence People and Make Friends. On the flip side, I once worked with a CTO who was technical, but couldn't make friends or influence people. End result was that he couldn't get senior managers behind his ideas or…
……在宗教团体里经历过这种事（本身就是一个小圈子）。多亏了这段经历，我在一个新地方能极快地交到朋友，而很少有成年人懂得该怎么做。如果你打算看书，推荐读一本叫《How to influence people and make friends》的书，但千万别读那本由作者不成器的后代改得一塌糊涂的新版，去读老的原版书。不过光读书是没用的，因为你……
…did it in a religious group(a tribe in itself) Thanks to this experience I can make friends very fast in a new place, something few adults know how to do. If you are going to read, read a book called "How to influence people and make friends", but do not read the new book that is a badly revised book by the incompetent descendants of the writer, read the old original book. But reading books is not going to help because you…
怎么说呢，它确实能帮到你，但它不算“self-help”。里面就是讲了很多说服机制以及如何影响他人的干货。它被公认为该领域的经典之一，而且——依我看（IMO）——绝对值得一读。
Well, it can help you, but it's not "self-help." Just a lot of information on how persuasion works and how to influence people. It's considered one of the classics in that area and is - IMO - definitely worth a read.
……交朋友”。我觉得恰恰相反。人们批评它是因为“如何交朋友”放在书名开头且更显眼，但这书的核心其实并不是讲这个。“如何影响他人”比起“如何赢取朋友”要贴合内容得多，但“影响”也不是最妥帖的词，而且我猜如果用那个书名，销量肯定远远不如现在这个真实书名。除此之……
…to make friends". I think it is the other way round. People criticize it because "How to make friends" is the first and more prominent part of the title, while the book is not primarily about that. "How to influence people" fits the content much better than "How to win friends" but "influence" isn't the most appropriate word either and I guess that would not have sold the book nearly as well as its actual title. Apart…
……受到这些社交套路和操纵？这念头真让我挺膈应的。听到一句赞美，却不知道它是真诚发自内心的，还是仅仅因为那个人上周刚读了《How to influence people and win friends》，想拿我当试验品练练他的操纵技巧。也许比起推崇这些社交话术，我们更应该提倡对真诚的重视以及保有一定的自制力……
…subject to these social tricks and manipulations? This thought truly bothers me. To hear a complement and not knowing if it was true and genuine or I was complemented simply because that person had read "How to influence people and win friends" last week and wanted to try his manipulation techniques on me. Maybe instead of promoting these social skills we need to promote the appreciation of honesty and having some self control…
我觉得如果是这样反而更好。我曾经向一位 CTO 汇报，他的圣经就是《How To Influence People and Make Friends》。他下令要在一个周末内完成 400 万条记录的迁移，因为他向 CEO 保证了“周一前一切都会搞定”，但我之前明明告诉过他，那个方案需要……
I believe it’s better if they are. I once reported to a CTO whose bible was How To Influence People and Make Friends. He ordered a migration of 4 million records to be done in a weekend because he had promised the CEO “everything would be fine by Monday” but I had told him that that plan would require…
我曾经向一位 CTO 汇报，他的圣经就是《How To Influence People and Make Friends》。而从另一面看，我也跟过一个技术很强、却既不会交朋友也不会影响他人的 CTO。最终结果就是他根本没法让高管层支持他的想法，或者……
I once reported to a CTO whose bible was How To Influence People and Make Friends. On the flip side, I once worked with a CTO who was technical, but couldn't make friends or influence people. End result was that he couldn't get senior managers behind his ideas or…