…done: It is not trivial to surface all these issues, and issues un-surfaced do indeed fall into the pathological dichotomy above. To that end, (and in particular for working parents) I heartily recommend Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and the process it describes. It’s not easy to identify and mitigate all these deltas, and submitting to the books guidance mitigates the formidable cognitive load of the process.
…garbage, rather than starting from neutral ground. You can find quite a lot of data showing that the burden of managing domestic matters falls primarily on women. I would recommend people check out the book Fair Play which examines the problem and puts forward a system where people are assigned various personal tasks that need to be done (there are 100 in total, not all of which may apply to your life/household):…
…by foisting ownership of and accountability for tasks onto my husband. The only slight hiccup in this plan is that if your husband doesn’t do the tasks, the system falls apart. > The problem, as both Fair Play’s author, Eve Rodsky, and I, and probably lots of other women, see it, is the men.
…搞定：把所有这些问题摆到台面上并不容易，而没被摆上台面的问题确实会陷入上述病态的二元对立中。为此，（特别是对双职工父母来说）我由衷推荐伊芙·罗德斯基的《公平游戏》（Fair Play）以及书中所描述的那套流程。要识别并消除所有这些差距并不容易，而遵循书里的指引可以减轻这个过程带来的巨大认知负荷。
…done: It is not trivial to surface all these issues, and issues un-surfaced do indeed fall into the pathological dichotomy above. To that end, (and in particular for working parents) I heartily recommend Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and the process it describes. It’s not easy to identify and mitigate all these deltas, and submitting to the books guidance mitigates the formidable cognitive load of the process.
…倒垃圾，而不是从一个中立的起点开始。你能找到大量数据表明，操持家务的重担主要落在了女性身上。我建议大家读读《公平游戏》（Fair Play）这本书，它剖析了这个问题，并提出了一套系统，将需要完成的各项个人任务分配给每个人（总共 100 项，并不一定都适用于你的生活/家庭）：…
…garbage, rather than starting from neutral ground. You can find quite a lot of data showing that the burden of managing domestic matters falls primarily on women. I would recommend people check out the book Fair Play which examines the problem and puts forward a system where people are assigned various personal tasks that need to be done (there are 100 in total, not all of which may apply to your life/household):…
…通过把任务的归属权和责任一股脑甩给我老公。这个计划唯一的小插曲在于，如果你的老公根本不做这些任务，整套系统就会崩溃。> 正如《公平游戏》（Fair Play）的作者伊芙·罗德斯基、我和很多其他女性所看到的那样，问题在于男人身上。
…by foisting ownership of and accountability for tasks onto my husband. The only slight hiccup in this plan is that if your husband doesn’t do the tasks, the system falls apart. > The problem, as both Fair Play’s author, Eve Rodsky, and I, and probably lots of other women, see it, is the men.