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• arikr · 2018 年

  我觉得不同的父母目标不一样，所以最好的办法可能是找一堆书来读，挑出你喜欢的。几本推荐：《The Gardener and the Carpenter》、《Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids》https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war...、《The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline That Really Works!》、《How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Raising An……

  I think different parents have different goals, so probably the best is to read a bunch of books and pick out the ones you like. Some suggestions: The Gardener and the Carpenter Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war... The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline That Really Works! How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Raising An…

• banjo_milkman · 2019 年

  ……比听起来难得多。孩子 A 和孩子 B 大相径庭。我发现对我家孩子“管用”的方法对别人家孩子根本不灵。顺着这个思路，我觉得这本书很有意思：《The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children》

  …more difficult than it sounds. Kid A is very different from kid B. I've found that things that 'work' with my kids don't work on other kids. Along these lines, I thought this book was interesting: The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children

• Erratic6576 · 2023 年

  ……有更多深度投入的照料者能抚育出适应力更强的后代。为人父母简直是一种自残式的折磨，我实在无法理解全世界怎么会有那么多人生孩子。1. 《The Gardener and the Carpenter》：Alison Gopnik, Erin Bennett：9781536617832

  …having more and more invested caregivers produces fitter offspring. Parenthood is a self-inflicted sabotage and I cannot understand how come there are so many parents bearing children worldwide. 1. The Gardener and the Carpenter: Alison Gopnik, Erin Bennett: 9781536617832

• ignoramous · 2026 年

  > 摆好新的棋盘游戏，分发好新的棋子，我们学习玩新的游戏 这让我想起 Alison Gopnik 在育儿书《The Gardener and the Carpenter》中关于体育/竞争的一个观点。她说必须鼓励孩子去探索（explore），而不是去利用/榨取（exploit）（“玩游戏”），不用怀着任何明确的目标。这样能让他们弄明白周围的世界以及自己如何影响……

  > A new board game gets set up, new pieces doled out, we learn to play the new game Reminds me of this idea about sport / competition from the parenting book, The Gardener and the Carpenter by Alison Gopnik. She says that children must be encouraged to explore, not exploit ("play games"), without any end goal in mind. This lets them figure out the world around them and how they can affect…

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