……从一颗行星到一个奇怪但快乐得多、充满爱的行星。你可以（比你以为的）快乐得多；你只是被困在一颗悲惨的行星上，这颗行星会让任何人都悲伤。我建议看看 Jeffrey Young 的《Reinventing Your Life》：它提供了你到达那个更快乐行星所需的工具，在那里你可以感到更安全、被爱和被接纳。
…planet to a strange but much happier, more loving planet. You can be (much) happier than you think; you're just stranded on a miserable planet, one that would make anybody sad. I'd suggest checking out Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young: it provides the tools you need to get to that happier planet, where you can feel safer and loved and accepted.
…failure: you believe you can't accomplish anything in life There are a few more. I found this book very helpful in understanding Schema Therapy and the lifetraps that apply to me: https://www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Your-Life-breakthrough-be... [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_therapy
……没用的东西：- 讲被自恋型人格伤害的人的书。- Reddit 上所有关于自恋的小组。- Vaknin 和其他知名自恋者的文章。有用的东西：- Young 的《Reinventing Your Life》（面向大众）。- Young 的《Schema Therapy》（面向专业人士）。- Greenberg 的《Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations》（面向专业人士）。- 学会在什么时候保持觉察……
…Things that did not help: -Books about people who were affected by narcissistic people. -All reddit groups about narcissism. -Writings of Vaknin and other famous narcissists. Things that did help: -Reinventing Your Life by Young (general audience). -Schema Therapy by Young (professional audience). -Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations by Greenberg (professional audience). -Learning how to be aware when…
……高标准陷阱 11. “我想要什么就能有什么”——特权感陷阱。我们应对它们的一种方式就是逃避它们引发的情绪，而做法就是让自己麻木。编辑补充：书名是 Jeffrey Young 写的《Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior》。
…Standards Lifetrap 11. "I can have whatever I want" - The Entitlement Lifetrap One way we cope with them is by avoiding the feelings they cause and we do that by numbing ourselves. LE: The book is called "Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior" by Jeffrey Young.
……《Overcoming Common Obstacles in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy》[http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Unstuck-ACT-Clinicians-Overcom...] Jeffrey E. Young 的两本：《Schema Therapy - A Practitioner's Guide》和《Reinventing Your Life》[http://www.amazon.com/Schema-Therapy-A-Practitioners-Guide/d...] Steven C. Hayes 的《Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life》[http://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life/dp/1572244259] Charlotte Kasl……
…Overcoming Common Obstacles in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy [http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Unstuck-ACT-Clinicians-Overcom...] Both by Jeffrey E. Young: Schema Therapy - A Practitioner's Guide, and Reinventing Your Life [http://www.amazon.com/Schema-Therapy-A-Practitioners-Guide/d...] Steven C. Hayes, - Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life [http://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life/dp/1572244259] Charlotte Kasl…
……从一颗行星到一个奇怪但快乐得多、充满爱的行星。你可以（比你以为的）快乐得多；你只是被困在一颗悲惨的行星上，这颗行星会让任何人都悲伤。我建议看看 Jeffrey Young 的《Reinventing Your Life》：它提供了你到达那个更快乐行星所需的工具，在那里你可以感到更安全、被爱和被接纳。
…planet to a strange but much happier, more loving planet. You can be (much) happier than you think; you're just stranded on a miserable planet, one that would make anybody sad. I'd suggest checking out Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young: it provides the tools you need to get to that happier planet, where you can feel safer and loved and accepted.
……失败陷阱：你认定自己在生活中一事无成。还有其他几种。我觉得这本书在理解图式治疗（Schema Therapy）以及适用于我的“人生陷阱”方面非常有帮助：https://www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Your-Life-breakthrough-be... [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_therapy
…failure: you believe you can't accomplish anything in life There are a few more. I found this book very helpful in understanding Schema Therapy and the lifetraps that apply to me: https://www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Your-Life-breakthrough-be... [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_therapy
……没用的东西：- 讲被自恋型人格伤害的人的书。- Reddit 上所有关于自恋的小组。- Vaknin 和其他知名自恋者的文章。有用的东西：- Young 的《Reinventing Your Life》（面向大众）。- Young 的《Schema Therapy》（面向专业人士）。- Greenberg 的《Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations》（面向专业人士）。- 学会在什么时候保持觉察……
…Things that did not help: -Books about people who were affected by narcissistic people. -All reddit groups about narcissism. -Writings of Vaknin and other famous narcissists. Things that did help: -Reinventing Your Life by Young (general audience). -Schema Therapy by Young (professional audience). -Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations by Greenberg (professional audience). -Learning how to be aware when…
……高标准陷阱 11. “我想要什么就能有什么”——特权感陷阱。我们应对它们的一种方式就是逃避它们引发的情绪，而做法就是让自己麻木。编辑补充：书名是 Jeffrey Young 写的《Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior》。
…Standards Lifetrap 11. "I can have whatever I want" - The Entitlement Lifetrap One way we cope with them is by avoiding the feelings they cause and we do that by numbing ourselves. LE: The book is called "Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior" by Jeffrey Young.
……《Overcoming Common Obstacles in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy》[http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Unstuck-ACT-Clinicians-Overcom...] Jeffrey E. Young 的两本：《Schema Therapy - A Practitioner's Guide》和《Reinventing Your Life》[http://www.amazon.com/Schema-Therapy-A-Practitioners-Guide/d...] Steven C. Hayes 的《Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life》[http://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life/dp/1572244259] Charlotte Kasl……
…Overcoming Common Obstacles in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy [http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Unstuck-ACT-Clinicians-Overcom...] Both by Jeffrey E. Young: Schema Therapy - A Practitioner's Guide, and Reinventing Your Life [http://www.amazon.com/Schema-Therapy-A-Practitioners-Guide/d...] Steven C. Hayes, - Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life [http://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life/dp/1572244259] Charlotte Kasl…
等我读完《Reinventing Your Life》就去读它，这也是别人推荐给我的一本书。
Will read it after I finish 'Reinventing Your Life', another book that was recommended to me.