教养的迷思
The nurture assumption
Judith Rich Harris · 初版 1998 年
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为什么值得读
- 质疑父母单方面塑造孩子性格的传统认知
- 指出同伴群体影响远大于一般假设中的家庭教养
- 厘清基因遗传与教养实践之间的相关与因果关系
概览：这本开创性的著作是 Pulitzer Prize 决选作品及 New York Times 瞩目好书，于1998年首次出版时便宣称父母对孩子的成长发育几乎没有影响，从而震撼了整个心理学界。在 The Nurture Assumption 的十周年纪念版中，Judith Harris 全面更新了内容并撰写了全新的导言。她融合了来自心理学、社会学、人类学、灵长类学以及进化生物学的深刻洞见，阐明了儿童为何以及如何倾向于从同伴那里获得行为启示，并将其转化为自身的进化优……
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……尤其是他的语言表达，出现了一个非常令人担忧的转变。他明显是在学学校里某些同学的行为。不久前我读了一本朱迪斯·哈里斯（Judith Harris）写的书，叫《教养的迷思》（The Nurture Assumption）。作为父母，它对我的影响超过了我读过的任何东西，因为书里的观点实在是太不言而喻了。她的论点是：所有人都认为成年人对孩子的未来有重大影响，……
…and especially his language use, has taken a really troubling turn. He is obviously picking up the behavior of some of the children he goes to school with. I read a book not too long ago entitled “The Nurture Assumption,” by Judith Harris. It influenced me more than anything I’ve read as a parent, because it is so obviously true. Her thesis is that everyone assumes that adults have a significant impact on a child’s future,…
确实如此。不过，这更可能只是相关性而非因果性。充满爱的父母传递的是充满爱的基因。关于这个话题，我推荐 Judith Rich Harris 的书《教养的迷思》（The Nurture Assumption）。（https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Nurture_Assumption）
This is very true. However, it's likely to be correlation rather can causation. Loving parents pass on loving genes. I recommend Judith Rich Harris's book "The Nurture Assumption" on the topic. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Nurture_Assumption)
……（受教育程度 X 组）的孩子，与那些父母较贫困的同龄人的共同点，要多于与（有钱父母）组的共同点。去读读 Bryan 的书，读读 Judith Rich Harris 的《教养的迷思》（The Nurture Assumption），读读蔡美儿（Amy Chua）的书吧。看看关于性格特质和智力的遗传性与可塑性的文献。这些都让我觉得，如果我要自找麻烦、投入更多精力，我干脆去要另一个……
…the children of (Educational attainment group X) have more in common with their counterparts with poorer parents than with the group (has rich parents). Read Bryan's book, read Judith Rich Harris' “The Nurture Assumption”, read Amy Chua's book. Read the literature on heritability and mutability of personality traits and intelligence. It's all left me thinking that if I'm going to go for more aggro I'll just go for another…
……你会成为什么样的人。而且起关键作用的“后天教养”来自你的同龄人，而不是父母。觉得怀疑？我强烈推荐这本系统梳理了研究文献的大作：https://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Assumption-Children-Revised-U... 除非他们做双胞胎和领养研究（这很难！），否则依恋理论研究人员其实是把教养方式（这些温暖有爱的父母养出了温暖有爱的孩子！）和遗传基因混为一谈了。
…person you turn out to be. And the "nurture" that matters is your peers, not your parents. Skeptical? I highly recommend this book-length treatment of the research literature: https://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Assumption-Children-Revised-U... Unless they are doing twin & adoption studies (hard!), attachment researchers are conflating parenting practices (these warm and loving parents had a warm & loving kid!) with genetics.
Judith Rich Harris 写的《教养的迷思：父母的传统教养方式为什么会失败》（The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do）。要小孩之前一定要读读。太神了……
The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do by Judith Rich Harris. Read this before getting kids. Awesome...
我确实引用了 Harris 的《教养的迷思》（The Nurture Assumption），这本书把这点论述得极其透彻。没记错的话（IIRC），她确实也引用了 Bowlby。
I did cite Harris' The Nurture Assumption, which argues this incredibly lucidly. IIRC she does reference Bowlby too.