…因为这也是我默认的思考方式。随着时间的推移，经验让我揪出了这个隐藏的观念并去质疑它。然后我偶然发现了我的第二本神书，里面描述了我现在用的改变模型：Prochaska 等人写的《Changing for Good》。就像读《Feeling Good》一样，有太多书页让我一边读一边感叹：“啊，我太清楚自己什么时候会掉进‘那个’坑里了”。
…because that was my default thinking too. In time, experience led me to identifying this hidden belief and challenging it. Then I stumbled on my #2 book which describes the model for change that I use: "Changing for Good" by Prochaska et al. Just as with "Feeling Good", there are so many pages I'd read and think "Ahh I know exactly when I fall into THAT trap".
…你喜欢的帅哥/美女，然后毫无准备（甚至毫无察觉）地开始行动去戒烟，你极有可能复发（也就是退回到第 1 或第 2 阶段）。我强烈推荐读读 Prochaska 等人的《Changing for Good》（http://www.amazon.com/Changing-Good-Revolutionary-Overcoming...），去了解改变的各个阶段，如何评估自己在某个改变上所处的阶段，以及你是否准备好迈向…
…cute guy/girl you're into, and you go unprepared (unaware) into action and quit smoking you are highly likely to relapse (i.e. go back to stage 1 or 2). I highly recommend reading Prochaska et al.'s "Changing for Good" (http://www.amazon.com/Changing-Good-Revolutionary-Overcoming...) to understand about the stages of change, how to evaluate where you are w.r.t. a certain change and if you're ready to move forward to…
…停止拖延，因为他们还没做好采取行动的准备。但就像 debug 代码一样，你只需要顺着依赖链一步步摸索，直到解决一个个深层 root causes。Prochaska 的《Changing for Good》在这方面带我走上了觉察之路。一旦你清楚自己的大脑在搞什么鬼，你想不进步都难。
…stop procrastinating because they're not ready to take action. But just like debugging code, you just have to follow the chain of dependencies until you deal with successive root causes. Prochaska's "Changing for Good" put me on the path of awareness in this regard. Once you know what your brain is doing it's pretty difficult not to make progress.
另外，也可以看看 James Prochaska 写的《Changing For Good》。有句话说得好（虽然不是出自这本书）：“想要定义自己，就像想要用自己的牙咬自己的牙一样。”所以找你认识且信任的人交流想法、碰撞一下。寻求建议和建设性的…
Also, check out the book "Changing For Good" by James Prochaska. There is quote, (not from the book) "Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth." So bounce ideas off people you know and trust. Seek council and constructive…
…one step of a change process. It's an old book and a simple one, but as far as I know their research on how people successfully change behavior still holds up: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46680.Changing_for_Good Most studies show, I think, that positive motivation is a better tool than shaming/blaming/judging, in most situations.
…喝酒。家里不放酒是个好的开始。手头有个替代品会很有帮助——我自己会泡茶，用碎洛神花和绿茶混着喝。我强烈推荐 Prochaska 等人写的《Changing for Good》（https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&an=Proc...）。他们发现这类改变（戒烟也是另一个例子）是一个 6 阶段的过程，在每个阶段…
…drink. Not having alcohol in the house is a good step. Having an alternative at hand — I make tea, a mix of shredded hibiscus and green tea and drink that — is helpful. I strongly recommend the book Changing for Good, by Prochaska et al. (https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&an=Proc...) They found that changes of this sort (quitting smoking is another example) is a 6-stage process, and at each stage…
…因为这也是我默认的思考方式。随着时间的推移，经验让我揪出了这个隐藏的观念并去质疑它。然后我偶然发现了我的第二本神书，里面描述了我现在用的改变模型：Prochaska 等人写的《Changing for Good》。就像读《Feeling Good》一样，有太多书页让我一边读一边感叹：“啊，我太清楚自己什么时候会掉进‘那个’坑里了”。
…because that was my default thinking too. In time, experience led me to identifying this hidden belief and challenging it. Then I stumbled on my #2 book which describes the model for change that I use: "Changing for Good" by Prochaska et al. Just as with "Feeling Good", there are so many pages I'd read and think "Ahh I know exactly when I fall into THAT trap".
…你喜欢的帅哥/美女，然后毫无准备（甚至毫无察觉）地开始行动去戒烟，你极有可能复发（也就是退回到第 1 或第 2 阶段）。我强烈推荐读读 Prochaska 等人的《Changing for Good》（http://www.amazon.com/Changing-Good-Revolutionary-Overcoming...），去了解改变的各个阶段，如何评估自己在某个改变上所处的阶段，以及你是否准备好迈向…
…cute guy/girl you're into, and you go unprepared (unaware) into action and quit smoking you are highly likely to relapse (i.e. go back to stage 1 or 2). I highly recommend reading Prochaska et al.'s "Changing for Good" (http://www.amazon.com/Changing-Good-Revolutionary-Overcoming...) to understand about the stages of change, how to evaluate where you are w.r.t. a certain change and if you're ready to move forward to…
…停止拖延，因为他们还没做好采取行动的准备。但就像 debug 代码一样，你只需要顺着依赖链一步步摸索，直到解决一个个深层 root causes。Prochaska 的《Changing for Good》在这方面带我走上了觉察之路。一旦你清楚自己的大脑在搞什么鬼，你想不进步都难。
…stop procrastinating because they're not ready to take action. But just like debugging code, you just have to follow the chain of dependencies until you deal with successive root causes. Prochaska's "Changing for Good" put me on the path of awareness in this regard. Once you know what your brain is doing it's pretty difficult not to make progress.
另外，也可以看看 James Prochaska 写的《Changing For Good》。有句话说得好（虽然不是出自这本书）：“想要定义自己，就像想要用自己的牙咬自己的牙一样。”所以找你认识且信任的人交流想法、碰撞一下。寻求建议和建设性的…
Also, check out the book "Changing For Good" by James Prochaska. There is quote, (not from the book) "Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth." So bounce ideas off people you know and trust. Seek council and constructive…
…改变过程中的一步。虽然这是本老书，内容也挺简单，但据我所知，他们关于人如何成功改变行为的研究至今依然立得住：https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46680.Changing_for_Good 我认为大多数研究都表明，在绝大多数情况下，积极的动力都比羞辱/指责/评判更管用。
…one step of a change process. It's an old book and a simple one, but as far as I know their research on how people successfully change behavior still holds up: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46680.Changing_for_Good Most studies show, I think, that positive motivation is a better tool than shaming/blaming/judging, in most situations.
…喝酒。家里不放酒是个好的开始。手头有个替代品会很有帮助——我自己会泡茶，用碎洛神花和绿茶混着喝。我强烈推荐 Prochaska 等人写的《Changing for Good》（https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&an=Proc...）。他们发现这类改变（戒烟也是另一个例子）是一个 6 阶段的过程，在每个阶段…
…drink. Not having alcohol in the house is a good step. Having an alternative at hand — I make tea, a mix of shredded hibiscus and green tea and drink that — is helpful. I strongly recommend the book Changing for Good, by Prochaska et al. (https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&an=Proc...) They found that changes of this sort (quitting smoking is another example) is a 6-stage process, and at each stage…