…everyone that offered advice and encouragement on this. Here's a few of the top resources that were shared for anyone else in a similar situation: http://parenting.stackexchange.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Reward... https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638... https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Child-Children-Overw... https://www.amazon.com/No-Drama-Discipline-Whole-Brain-Nurtu...…
我随口能想到的，阿尔菲·科恩（Alfie Kohn）的《Unconditional Parenting》（无条件养育）是该领域的开山之作。丹尼尔·西格尔（Daniel Siegel）和玛丽·哈策尔（Mary Hartzell）合著的《Parenting From the Inside Out》也极棒。
Off the top of my head, "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn is a seminal text in the field. "Parenting From the Inside Out" by Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell is wonderful as well.
You will resonate with Aktie Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting which cites a lot of research confirming the long term futility and harm of extrinsic pressures encoded in common parenting practices and educational institutions.
…make lots of decisions. You can still make your values known and prevent damage and injury but let them do as much as possible and learn what works. A great introduction to this type of thinking is Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn.
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn has a great perspective on the reward/punishment question. Doesn't check all your boxes but worth checking out alongside other options.
……所有在这件事上提供建议和鼓励的人。这里给同样处境的人分享几个最棒的资源：http://parenting.stackexchange.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Reward... https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638... https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Child-Children-Overw... https://www.amazon.com/No-Drama-Discipline-Whole-Brain-Nurtu...……
…everyone that offered advice and encouragement on this. Here's a few of the top resources that were shared for anyone else in a similar situation: http://parenting.stackexchange.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Reward... https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638... https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Child-Children-Overw... https://www.amazon.com/No-Drama-Discipline-Whole-Brain-Nurtu...…
我随口能想到的，阿尔菲·科恩（Alfie Kohn）的《Unconditional Parenting》（无条件养育）是该领域的开山之作。丹尼尔·西格尔（Daniel Siegel）和玛丽·哈策尔（Mary Hartzell）合著的《Parenting From the Inside Out》也极棒。
Off the top of my head, "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn is a seminal text in the field. "Parenting From the Inside Out" by Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell is wonderful as well.
就不一一列举了，但对我（以及不仅仅是对我）的生活产生最直接影响的一本是：Alfie Kohn 的《无条件的爱》。
Not going to list all fo them, but the one that will have the most immediate impact on not just my life is: "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn.
你会对 Alfie Kohn 的《无条件的爱》产生共鸣，书中引用了大量研究，证实了常见育儿方式和教育机构中根深蒂固的外在压力具有长期的徒劳性和危害性。
You will resonate with Aktie Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting which cites a lot of research confirming the long term futility and harm of extrinsic pressures encoded in common parenting practices and educational institutions.
……做很多决定。你仍然可以表明自己的价值观，防止造成破坏和伤害，但要让他们尽可能多去尝试，自己摸索出什么行得通。了解这种思维方式的一个极佳入门书是 Alfie Kohn 的《无条件的爱》。
…make lots of decisions. You can still make your values known and prevent damage and injury but let them do as much as possible and learn what works. A great introduction to this type of thinking is Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn.
Alfie Kohn 的《无条件的爱》对奖惩问题有着非常棒的视角。虽然不一定能满足你的全部需求，但值得结合其他书一起看看。
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn has a great perspective on the reward/punishment question. Doesn't check all your boxes but worth checking out alongside other options.