……表面上是这样，但实际上这会把这个人禁锢一辈子。想直击问题根源的人可以在这里找到很多答案：Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》
…surface, but in reality this will emprison the person for life. Those who wish to come to the root of the issue will find many answers here: Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies
……父母会导致问题，以及为什么许多现代精神科医生仍然忽视这个关键问题，或许它能帮到你，反正绝对帮到了我：Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》
…parents causes issues and why many modern psychiatrists still overlook this crucial issue, perhaps it might help you, it definitely helped me: Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies
……现在肯定有人会说“citation needed”（求出处），对这部分人，我建议去读读这两本书，我上面写的就会一清二楚了。Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》
…Someone will now say "citation needed", and to those people I give these 2 books to read and what I wrote above will become as clear as day. Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies
……这种情况下相当于儒家那一套）——以我们自身、我们的孩子以及整个社会付出巨大代价为前提。这是我读过最让人大开眼界的书之一。第二本是她较近期的《The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting》（2005），这本书更具疗愈性，重点讨论了当人们终于能够为自己挺身而出时，身体上的疼痛和疾病是如何消散的，并且……
…this case, a Confucian equivalent) -- at tremendous cost to ourselves, our own children, and society at large. It is one of the most eye-opening books I have ever read. The second is her more recent The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting (2005), which is more therapeutic and focused on how people's physical pain and sickness can dissipate when they are able to finally stand up for themselves and…
……心里想着“对啊，但我父母尽力了对吧？”尽管他们彻底扼杀了他与生俱来的创造力和自由。Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》。这些书的 TLDR 版本就是：绝大多数父母在孩子小时候都试图去塑造他们、把他们套进条条框框里，或者压制他们作为孩子的需求和愿望，从未真正倾听过他们。这……
…thinking "yeah, but my parents did the best you could you know?" even though they completely destroyed his innate creativity and freedom. Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies TLDR version of these books is that a large majority of parents tried to mold them as children and fit them into boxes or supressed their needs and wants as children and never truly listened to them. This…
……表面上是这样，但实际上这会把这个人禁锢一辈子。想直击问题根源的人可以在这里找到很多答案：Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》
…surface, but in reality this will emprison the person for life. Those who wish to come to the root of the issue will find many answers here: Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies
……父母会导致问题，以及为什么许多现代精神科医生仍然忽视这个关键问题，或许它能帮到你，反正绝对帮到了我：Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》
…parents causes issues and why many modern psychiatrists still overlook this crucial issue, perhaps it might help you, it definitely helped me: Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies
……现在肯定有人会说“citation needed”（求出处），对这部分人，我建议去读读这两本书，我上面写的就会一清二楚了。Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》
…Someone will now say "citation needed", and to those people I give these 2 books to read and what I wrote above will become as clear as day. Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies
去读读 Alice Miller 的书吧。比如：《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、《The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting》
Read Alice Miller+s books. Eg: The Drama of the Gifted Child The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting
……这种情况下相当于儒家那一套）——以我们自身、我们的孩子以及整个社会付出巨大代价为前提。这是我读过最让人大开眼界的书之一。第二本是她较近期的《The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting》（2005），这本书更具疗愈性，重点讨论了当人们终于能够为自己挺身而出时，身体上的疼痛和疾病是如何消散的，并且……
…this case, a Confucian equivalent) -- at tremendous cost to ourselves, our own children, and society at large. It is one of the most eye-opening books I have ever read. The second is her more recent The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting (2005), which is more therapeutic and focused on how people's physical pain and sickness can dissipate when they are able to finally stand up for themselves and…
……心里想着“对啊，但我父母尽力了对吧？”尽管他们彻底扼杀了他与生俱来的创造力和自由。Alice Miller 的《The Drama of the Gifted Child》、Alice Miller 的《The Body Never Lies》。这些书的 TLDR 版本就是：绝大多数父母在孩子小时候都试图去塑造他们、把他们套进条条框框里，或者压制他们作为孩子的需求和愿望，从未真正倾听过他们。这……
…thinking "yeah, but my parents did the best you could you know?" even though they completely destroyed his innate creativity and freedom. Alice Miller: The Drama of the Gifted Child Alice Miller: The Body Never Lies TLDR version of these books is that a large majority of parents tried to mold them as children and fit them into boxes or supressed their needs and wants as children and never truly listened to them. This…