我当时的处境非常相似。我 21 岁，读机械工程，不知道自己这辈子该干嘛，但心气又很高。有一本对我帮助很大的书是《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》：http://www.amazon.com/Could-Anything-Only-Knew-What/dp/04405... 书名听起来有点俗套/鸡汤，但它真能帮你换个更好的角度审视自己的人生。一定要亲自动手去做里面的练习题。
I was in a very similar situation. I was 21, studying mechanical engineering, not sure what to do with my life, but had high expectations. One book that helped me a lot was "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was": http://www.amazon.com/Could-Anything-Only-Knew-What/dp/04405... The book sounds corny, but it can help you get a better perspective on your life. Make sure to actually do the exercises.
推荐一本书：Barbara Sher 写的《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》。倒不是说它能直接解决你的问题，但它会给你带来一些新的视角。
Recommended book: "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was" by Barbara Sher. Not that it will solve your problem but it will give you some perspective on it.
……发现有些人似乎并没有“某件专属的热爱”（A Thing），而且任何关于必须有“这辈子认定的一件事”的讨论都会让他们感到压力和痛苦。Barbara Sher 写给那些想要寻找并追随自己“人生使命”的人的书是《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》。而《Refuse to Choose》则是写给那些想做 70 件事，但一想到只能专攻其中一件就吓得不轻的人。
…discovered that some people didn't seem to have A Thing, and any talk of having A Thing made them stressed and unhappy. The Barbara Sher book for people who want to find and follow Their Purpose is "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was". "Refuse to Choose" is for people who want to do 70 things but the thought of doing any one of them exclusively is horrifying.
……给出的建议更倾向于“去做你真正擅长的事，而不是只做你喜欢的事”。挺有意思的，因为其他职业导师持完全相反的观点。比如《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》的作者 Barbara Sher，就拿自己当全职妈妈时的不快乐举例。她极度擅长做饭、换尿布以及育儿的其他方面。如果她只追求自己真正擅长的，那她就会限制……
…advice is more along the lines of "Do what you're really good at, rather than only what you love." That's interesting, as other career gurus argue the opposite view. For example Barbara Sher, author of "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was" gives the example of herself as an unhappy stay-at-home mom. She is an expert at cooking, changing diapers, and other aspects of child rearing. If she pursued what she was really good at, she'd be limiting…
我当时的处境非常相似。我 21 岁，读机械工程，不知道自己这辈子该干嘛，但心气又很高。有一本对我帮助很大的书是《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》：http://www.amazon.com/Could-Anything-Only-Knew-What/dp/04405... 书名听起来有点俗套/鸡汤，但它真能帮你换个更好的角度审视自己的人生。一定要亲自动手去做里面的练习题。
I was in a very similar situation. I was 21, studying mechanical engineering, not sure what to do with my life, but had high expectations. One book that helped me a lot was "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was": http://www.amazon.com/Could-Anything-Only-Knew-What/dp/04405... The book sounds corny, but it can help you get a better perspective on your life. Make sure to actually do the exercises.
推荐一本书：Barbara Sher 写的《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》。倒不是说它能直接解决你的问题，但它会给你带来一些新的视角。
Recommended book: "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was" by Barbara Sher. Not that it will solve your problem but it will give you some perspective on it.
……发现有些人似乎并没有“某件专属的热爱”（A Thing），而且任何关于必须有“这辈子认定的一件事”的讨论都会让他们感到压力和痛苦。Barbara Sher 写给那些想要寻找并追随自己“人生使命”的人的书是《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》。而《Refuse to Choose》则是写给那些想做 70 件事，但一想到只能专攻其中一件就吓得不轻的人。
…discovered that some people didn't seem to have A Thing, and any talk of having A Thing made them stressed and unhappy. The Barbara Sher book for people who want to find and follow Their Purpose is "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was". "Refuse to Choose" is for people who want to do 70 things but the thought of doing any one of them exclusively is horrifying.
……给出的建议更倾向于“去做你真正擅长的事，而不是只做你喜欢的事”。挺有意思的，因为其他职业导师持完全相反的观点。比如《I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was》的作者 Barbara Sher，就拿自己当全职妈妈时的不快乐举例。她极度擅长做饭、换尿布以及育儿的其他方面。如果她只追求自己真正擅长的，那她就会限制……
…advice is more along the lines of "Do what you're really good at, rather than only what you love." That's interesting, as other career gurus argue the opposite view. For example Barbara Sher, author of "I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was" gives the example of herself as an unhappy stay-at-home mom. She is an expert at cooking, changing diapers, and other aspects of child rearing. If she pursued what she was really good at, she'd be limiting…