依恋
Attached
Amir Levine · 初版 2010 年
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为什么值得读
- 系统梳理回避型、焦虑型与安全型等依恋特质
- 解释个人在亲密关系与择偶决策中的深层行为动机
- 提供可操作的建议，指导如何培养并走向安全型关系
本书介绍了 adult attachment（成人依恋）理论，将其作为一门能够帮助个体寻获并维系爱情的前沿人际关系科学，深入剖析了遗传基因与早期家庭生活在人们处理亲密关系时所起的作用。
Hacker News 上怎么说
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……结婚。在人到中年之前结婚的人，往往属于安全型依恋。到了中年之后的相亲/约会池里，主要就是各种不安全型依恋的人了。和不安全依恋型的人谈恋爱尤其心累。如果你还没结婚但想结，不妨去找具有安全型依恋的丧偶人士，同时努力把自己也培养成安全型依恋。https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-You...…
…marry. People who marry before middle-age often have secure attachment styles. The dating pool from middle age on consists primarily of people with insecure attachment styles. Relationships with insecurely attached people are especially problematic. If you're not married, but want to be, look for widows or widowers with secure attachment styles, and work on developing secure attachment. https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-You...…
我很喜欢 Levine 和 Heller 写的《Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love》[0]。里面对各种“类型”（回避型、安全型、焦虑型）的描述特别让人大开眼界，尤其是在……
I really enjoyed Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Levine and Heller [0]. The description of the “types” (avoidant, secure, anxious) was very eye-opening, especially while…
上周听了 HN 上的“建议”，我手头这本 Amire Levine 写的《Attached》快读完了。它讲的是人际关系中“恐惧/不安全 - 安全 - 回避”这一光谱。书里的分析方法非常系统化，彻底帮我打开了这种思考方式的……
I am almost through the book "Attached" by Amire Levine, on 'advise' from HN last week. It talks about the spectrum "fear/insecure - safe - avoiding" in relationships. It is very systematic in its approach and it opened my eyes to this way…
……成年人表达依恋的方式所衍生出的各种恋爱风格与需求。就我个人而言，它帮我想通了一些以前没完全搞明白的事。如果你想找本书读读，Levine 和 Heller 写的《Attached》挺实用的，重点放在了切实的理解和概念上。推荐。
…relationship styles and needs that come out of the ways that individuals express adult attachment. Personally, it made some things clear to me that I hadn't fully understood before. If you want a book thrn Attached by Levine and Heller is a useful book that concentrates on practical understanding and concepts. Recommended.
……突破；它彻底解释了我的行为模式、人际关系和人生选择。它还给出了一套自我改变和持续成长的方法。这里推荐几本关于依恋理论的书：《Attached》https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-You... 《A General Theory of Love》https://www.amazon.com/General-Theory-Love-Thomas-Lewis/dp/0... 《Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment》……
…breakthrough; it explains everything about my behavior, relationships, and life choices. It also suggests a method for change and ongoing personal development. Here are some books on Attachment Theory: Attached https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-You... A General Theory of Love https://www.amazon.com/General-Theory-Love-Thomas-Lewis/dp/0... Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment…
……在一段恋爱关系中，妥协是免不了的，但能心平气和、以安全感为基础去跟对方沟通，这绝对是 100% 的关键。这样同理心才能在两个人之间流动起来。我推荐读读 Amir Levine 的《Attached》，能让你更好地了解如何与焦虑型或回避型的人进行安全的沟通。“我只是真的需要（并且享受）独处，或者在没有别人打扰的情况下享受自己的兴趣……
…a romantic relationship, some compromise will be necessary, but having secure, level-headed conversations about this with people is 100% the key. The empathy will flow both ways. I recommend reading "Attached" by Amir Levine for more insight on secure conversations with anxious or avoidant people. "I just really need (and enjoy) being alone or being able to enjoy my interests without others interacting with…