不完美的礼物
The Gifts of Imperfection
Brené Brown · 初版 2010 年
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这是一本关于 Courage、Compassion 和 Connection 的深刻之作；这些都是指引我们走向全心全意、去爱自己和他人的决定（思维模式）。我们无法付出自己所没有的东西。真正的真实与爱源于内心。这段旅程要求我们通过深度的 meditation 和 prayer 变得从容专注，获得灵感在生活中做出崭新且不同的选择，最终付诸实践、采取行动，让每一天都成为新的开端。
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我发现读读 Brené Brown 的《不完美的礼物》（The Gifts of Imperfection，https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N4KQI11），真的帮我重新审视了“冒充者综合征”（imposter syndrome）。“完美主义并不等同于力求做到最好。完美主义是一种信念……
I found reading The Gifts of Imperfection (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N4KQI11), by Brene Brown, really helped reframe "imposter syndrome" for me. “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief…
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……我们的产出水平——花时间做没有明确目的的事变得极度罕见。事实上，对我们很多人来说，这听起来就像是一场随时可能爆发的焦虑症。这出自 Brené Brown 在《不完美的礼物》（The Gifts of Imperfection）里的第7个准则。那一章的副标题是《放下作为地位象征的筋疲力尽，不再把生产力当作自我价值》。前一章讲培养创造力也很值得一读。
…our level of productivity -- spending time doing purposeless activities is rare. In fact, for many of us it sounds like an anxiety attack waiting to happen. That's from Guidepost #7 of Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection. That chapter is subtitled Letting Go of Exhaustion As A Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth. The previous chapter on cultivating creativity is also worth a read.
……少刷社交媒体，多去肯定自己做得好的地方，找找自己身上的优点。最后，我平时不太感冒成功学励志书，但如果说有哪本帮到了我，那就是 Brené Brown 的《不完美的礼物》（The Gifts of Imperfection）。核心思想就是开始接纳并爱上真实的自己，认可“你已经足够好了”，并且理解内疚和羞耻感之间的区别（以及为什么感到内疚没毛病，但感到羞耻却有害）。
…off of social media, but try appreciating all the things you do well and find things you like about yourself. Lastly, I'm not too big into self-help books, but if there's one that's helped me it's The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. The gist is start loving yourself for who you are, recognize that you are enough, and understand the difference between shame and guilt (and why guilt is ok but shame is bad).
……日夜不停地想把你变成任何其他人，而不是你自己——这意味着要去打一场人类所能经历的最艰难的战役——并且永不休战。”——E.E. 卡明斯。顺便安利 Brené Brown 和《不完美的礼物》（The Gifts of Imperfection）。
…night and day, to make you everybody but yourself – means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight – and never stop fighting.” –EE Cummings With an assist from Brené Brown and _The Gifts of Imperfection_
有人针对这个问题给我推荐了 Brené Brown 的《不完美的礼物》（The Gifts of Imperfection）。在身心灵自保类书籍里，它明显算是不搞玄学套路的那种。
I was recommended "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown for this problem. As self-help books go it's decidedly light on woo.