人间游戏
Games People Play
Eric Berne · 初版 1964 年
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为什么值得读
- 揭示日常寒暄与社交互动背后的人际互动心理机制
- 从学术层面系统归纳人与人之间反复上演的行为模式
- 给出破解操纵性心理游戏、实现透明沟通的应对之道
《Games People Play》（1964）探讨了心理游戏迷人而奇特的世界；在这些游戏中，参与者往往会在潜意识里相互操控，从而做出令人疏离且具有自我毁灭倾向的行为。
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如果你认同这种思考角度，我建议读读《人间游戏》（Games People Play）[1]（到处搜搜也能找到最初的研究论文）。核心前提是我们在社交场合中是如何陷入交流博弈的（比如聊天气、聊体育等），并且去识别……
If you like this line of thinking, I would suggest reading "Games People Play" [1] (also can find the original research paper if you look around for it). Basic premise is how we fall into transactional games in social settings (talking about weather, sports, etc) and acknowledging…
……学习。我推荐这本书，这是我读过最好的沟通类书籍：http://www.amazon.com/Creating-Harmonious-Relationships-Prac... 这本也很不错：http://www.amazon.com/Games-People-Play-Transactional-Analys...
…learn. I would suggest this book; it's the best communication book I've ever read: http://www.amazon.com/Creating-Harmonious-Relationships-Prac... This book is also a good read: http://www.amazon.com/Games-People-Play-Transactional-Analys...
……基本上都在讲人际交往背后的心理学机制。-《人性的弱点》（How to Win Friends and Influence People，戴尔·卡耐基经典）-《潜台词》（Meta-Talk，Gerard I. Nierenberg、Henry H. Calero 著）-《人间游戏》（Games People Play，Eric Berne 著）-《身体语言密码》（What Every Body is Saying，Joe Nevarro、Marvin Karlins 著）-《谈话的技巧》（Conversationally Speaking，Alan Garner 著）。对于任何需要日常和人打交道的人来说，这些书都打下了极好的基础……
…all more or less about the psychology underlying every human interaction. - How to Win Friends and Influence People (a classic by Dale Carnegie) - Meta-Talk (Gerard I. Nierenberg, Henry H. Calero) - Games People Play (Eric Berne) - What Every Body is Saying (Joe Nevarro, Marvin Karlins) - Conversationally Speaking (Alan Garner) These books provide a great foundation for anyone who needs to deal with people on a…
……以我当时那个年纪而言。Edit：我凭记忆拉了个对我帮助挺大的自我提升书单（再次强调，是在我当时的年纪）：Thomas Harris 的《我好，你好》（I'm OK – You're OK，交互分析入门指南）、Eric Berne 的《人间游戏：人际关系心理学》（Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships）、Stephen Wolinsky 的《我们生活在恍惚中》（Trances We Live）、Napoleon Hill 的《思考致富》（Think and Grow Rich）、Thomas Cleary 的《禅与领导艺术》（Zen and the Art of Leadership）
…age I was at. Edit: I put together a list off the top of my head of self help books I found useful (again, at the age I was at) I'm OK – You're OK, guide to transactional analysis by Thomas Harris Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships by Eric Berne Trances We Live by Stephen Wolinsky Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill Zen and the Art of Leadership by Thomas Cleary
……对这些人来说，透明度就像照在吸血鬼身上的阳光一样致命。如果你（或其他人）对这些“游戏/套路”（他们就是这么称呼的）的学术研究感兴趣，去读读 Eric Berne 的小册子《人间游戏》（Games People Play）。书中解释了如何通过给玩家抛出其套路的“对立面”（antithesis），来达到你所说的“透明度”。
…transparency is to those people like light is to vampires. If you (or anyone else) is interested in the academic treatment of these 'games' (that is what they are called), read Eric Berne's short book "Games People Play". In the book it is explained how what you called "transparency" can be achieved by giving the player the "antithesis" to his game.
……再次体会到心理学对我们自身以及我们专业领域的影响。我们平时太沉迷于数学、算法和自动化了，以至于常常忽略这一点。有一本大众心理学畅销书叫 Eric Berne 的《人间游戏》（Games People Play），展示并解释了许多这类博弈套路机制。所有人都在用，可绝不只是产品经理和码农才会玩。
…reminded of the fact that psychology influences us and our craft disciplines. We're so occupied with math, algorithms and automation that this may slip our minds. There is a popular psychology book, “Games People Play” by Eric Berne that shows and explains many of those game mechanics. Everybody uses them, not just PMs and bit crunchers.