打过招呼之后说什么？
What do you say after you say hello?
Eric Berne · 初版 1972 年
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What Do You Say After You Say Hello? 解释了是什么让赢家获胜、输家落败，以及让介于两者之间的人平庸乏味……在本书中，Eric Berne 博士揭示了每个人的生活如何遵循一套预先注定的 script——一个他们在童年早期为自己编写的人生脚本。这个脚本可能是悲伤的，也可能是成功的；它决定了一个人将如何与同事相处、会和什么样的人结婚、会有几个孩子，甚至最终会死在什么样的床上……What Do You Say After You Say Hello? 展现了每个人生脚本是如何被书写、如何运作的，更重
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对我来说，另一本神书是埃里克·伯恩的《你说你好之后说什么？》（What do you say after you say hello）。不过《心流》（Flow）也很赞。
Another great book, for me, was 'What do you say after you say hello' by Eric Berne. Flow is also good, though.
《你说你好之后说什么？》（What do you say after you say hello?）人际沟通分析（Transactional analysis）真的能改变人生。我觉得奇怪的是这书居然没更火一点。
"What do you say after you say hello?" Transactional analysis is lifechanging. It's weird to me that this book isn't more popular.
埃里克·伯恩，《你说你好之后说什么？：人类命运的心理学》（What do you say after you say hello, The psychology of human destiny），Grove Press（1972年）。我是90年代初读的这本书，它彻底改变了我的人生。它是促使我改变人生轨迹、成为一名心理治疗师的催化剂。里面包含……
Eric Berne, What do you say after you say hello, The psychology of human destiny, Grove Press (1972) I read this book in the early 90's and it changed my life. It was the catalyst to make changes to my life to become a psychotherapist. Contains…
如果你喜欢这本书，我推荐顺便把续作《你说你好之后说什么？》（What Do You Say After You Say Hello?）也读了。它名气要小得多，可能因为是作者去世后才出版的，但我其实更喜欢这本。不过这本得后读，因为它大量引用了《人间游戏》（Games People Play）。
If you will enjoy the book, I would recommend reading also the sequel "What Do You Say After You Say Hello?". It is much less famous, probably because it was published posthumously, but I liked it even more. It needs to be read later, though, because it heavily references the "Games People Play".
……并且展示了它是如何演变成各种生活方式层面的“心理游戏”的，比如酗酒、病态人际关系等等。这对网络讨论论坛可能会很有用，我随口一说哈。另外我也推荐他的另一本书《你说你好之后说什么？》（What Do You Say After You Say Hello?），里面讲了各种人生脚本，这些脚本似乎主宰了我们自以为在人生中所追求的大部分东西。不管你买不买账这些理论，读起来都非常有意思。
…and shows how it builds up into lifestyle 'games' such as alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, etc. Might be useful for online discussion forums. Just sayin. I'd also recommend another book of his "What Do You Say After You Say Hello?" which covers the kinds of scripts that appear to govern a lot of what we think we want out of life. Regardless of whether you buy into the theories, they're fascinating to read about.
伯恩是一位非常有创新精神且洞察敏锐的思想家，他一直努力让自己的文字对非专业人士也能通俗易懂。无论是在《人间游戏》还是在《你说你好之后说什么？》里，人生脚本（life scripts）的概念都得到了阐释。
Berne was a really innovative and perceptive thinker, who made an effort to keep his writing accessible to non-specialists. Both Games People Play and What Do You Say After You Say Hello, where the idea of life scripts is explained.