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Stop walking on eggshells
Mason, Paul T. M.S. · 初版 1998 年
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“这本全面且具支持性的自助指南帮助BPD患者的家人和朋友理解这种自我毁灭性障碍，并学会如何应对BPD相关行为以及关照好自身。”——封面。
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Stop walking on eggshells
Mason, Paul T. M.S. · 初版 1998 年
“这本全面且具支持性的自助指南帮助BPD患者的家人和朋友理解这种自我毁灭性障碍，并学会如何应对BPD相关行为以及关照好自身。”——封面。
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……确诊了。他非常具有虐待倾向，是个情绪吸血鬼，但从不觉得自己有错，什么事都怪别人。真的太难应付了。有一些书会有帮助，比如《不再踩雷：如何与边缘性人格障碍者相处》（Stop Walking on Eggshells）。我觉得这个网站挺有用的：http://outofthefog.website/personality-disorders-1/2015/12/6...
…is diagnosed. He is very abusive, emotional vampire but never sees his mistakes, and always blames other people for everything. Really hard to deal with. There are some books that can help, for example Stop Walking on Eggshells. I found this website useful: http://outofthefog.website/personality-disorders-1/2015/12/6...
……是由一位患有 BPD（边缘性人格障碍）的母亲抚养长大的（成年后她其实应对得非常不错，但并非完美），而且我和好几个患有 BPD 的女性交往过（显然这是个太常见的剧本了）。在从感情创伤中走出来的过程中，我发现《不再踩雷》（Stop Walking on Eggshells）以及类似资料（比如 http://gettinbetter.com/articles.html 上关于 BPD 的文章）极有帮助。第一段感情就暴露出各种危险信号（red flags），但是……
…raised by a BPD mother (who actually did an incredible job coping with it as an adult, but she wasn't perfect), and I have dated multiple women with BPD (an all-too-common scenario apparently). I found Stop Walking on Eggshells and similar sources (e.g. the BPD articles on http://gettinbetter.com/articles.html) extremely helpful when it came to recovering from my relationships. The first one had all sorts of red flags, but…
如果大家从这个帖子里只能获得哪怕一点收获，那应该是：绝大多数关于 BPD 的通俗读物（例如下文提到的《不再踩雷》和《我恨你，但请别离开我》等）所基于的研究都已经落后了几十年，而且基本上过时了。如果你想了解 BPD，请从辩证行为疗法（Dialectical…）的研究开始
If people get one thing and only one from this thread, it should be this: the vast majority of popular work on BPD (e.g., Stop Walking on Eggshells, mentioned below, and "I hate you, don't leave me", etc.) is based on research that is decades out of date and substantially obsolete. If you want to learn about BPD, start with the research on Dialectical…