The advice I've been given is forgiveness + boundaries. This book is usually recommended [1], but you can discover your own style of setting boundaries by working with a therapist. (it will need to be tailored to your situation) [1] https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Cont...
Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. This book helped me with empathy, boundaries, and self-criticism. Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud helped me to step back from taking responsibilities for people & things that are not mine. It also helped me to face choices I’ve made. Note: this book…
……Levine 和 Heller 写的《The New Science of Adult Attachment》（依恋的科学）[0]——这对理解人际关系，以及我和他人如何对待恋爱、工作等非常有用，挺让我大开眼界的。Henry Cloud 的《Boundaries》[1]——这看起来是个很基础的概念，我原本以为自己懂，但这本书确实很有帮助。我猜类似的书还有很多，所以读上一两本好书大概就够了，不过这本是……
…Science of Adult Attachment by Levine and Heller [0] - this was really useful for understanding relationships and how I and others respond to relationships, love, work, etc. was rather eye opening to me. Boundaries by Henry Cloud [1] - this seems like a basic concept and I thought I knew about this but this book helped. I expect there are others so reading one or two good ones will probably do, but this is the one…
……这导致我们很难传承一种健康的自我认同感。凡是缺乏认同感（或者认同感不健康，这俩本质上是一码事，只是说法不同）的地方，设立的边界就很糟糕。我强烈推荐 Henry Cloud 和 John Townsend 写的《Boundaries》这本书 <http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dap.... 你对重返校园的犹豫不决可能是……
…which makes it difficult to pass on a healthy sense of identity to us. Where there's a lack of identify (or unhealthy identity, these are essentially the same things with different terminology), poor boundaries are set in place. I highly recommend the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend <http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dap.... Your hesitancy to return to school may be…
I always found the "Boundaries" (Henry Cloud) distinction here very useful. It's OK to "hurt" someone - that is, if you are communicating the truth, your boundaries, your needs, you may hurt someone. It's not OK to "harm" someone…
哇哦。你得跟你公婆/岳父母划清明确的界限了。读读这个：https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/...
Whoah. You need to create some serious boundaries with your in-laws. Read this: https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/...
别人给我的建议是：原谅 + 建立界限。通常会推荐这本书 [1]，但你也可以通过找心理咨询师来探索适合你自己的设立界限的方式。（需要根据你的具体情况量身定制）[1] https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Cont...
The advice I've been given is forgiveness + boundaries. This book is usually recommended [1], but you can discover your own style of setting boundaries by working with a therapist. (it will need to be tailored to your situation) [1] https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Cont...
Marshall Rosenberg 写的《Nonviolent Communication》（非暴力沟通）。这本书在共情、边界感和自我批评方面帮到了我。Henry Cloud 博士的《Boundaries》（过犹不及：如何建立你的心理界线）帮我学会了不再为不属于自己的人和事揽责任。它还帮我勇敢面对自己做出的选择。注：这本书……
Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. This book helped me with empathy, boundaries, and self-criticism. Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud helped me to step back from taking responsibilities for people & things that are not mine. It also helped me to face choices I’ve made. Note: this book…
……Levine 和 Heller 写的《The New Science of Adult Attachment》（依恋的科学）[0]——这对理解人际关系，以及我和他人如何对待恋爱、工作等非常有用，挺让我大开眼界的。Henry Cloud 的《Boundaries》[1]——这看起来是个很基础的概念，我原本以为自己懂，但这本书确实很有帮助。我猜类似的书还有很多，所以读上一两本好书大概就够了，不过这本是……
…Science of Adult Attachment by Levine and Heller [0] - this was really useful for understanding relationships and how I and others respond to relationships, love, work, etc. was rather eye opening to me. Boundaries by Henry Cloud [1] - this seems like a basic concept and I thought I knew about this but this book helped. I expect there are others so reading one or two good ones will probably do, but this is the one…
……这导致我们很难传承一种健康的自我认同感。凡是缺乏认同感（或者认同感不健康，这俩本质上是一码事，只是说法不同）的地方，设立的边界就很糟糕。我强烈推荐 Henry Cloud 和 John Townsend 写的《Boundaries》这本书 <http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dap.... 你对重返校园的犹豫不决可能是……
…which makes it difficult to pass on a healthy sense of identity to us. Where there's a lack of identify (or unhealthy identity, these are essentially the same things with different terminology), poor boundaries are set in place. I highly recommend the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend <http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dap.... Your hesitancy to return to school may be…
我一直觉得《Boundaries》（Henry Cloud 著）里的这个区分非常有用。“hurt”（伤害情感/使人难过）别人是可以的——也就是说，如果你在沟通真相、你的底线、你的需求，你可能会让某人难过。但“harm”（造成实质伤害）别人是不行的……
I always found the "Boundaries" (Henry Cloud) distinction here very useful. It's OK to "hurt" someone - that is, if you are communicating the truth, your boundaries, your needs, you may hurt someone. It's not OK to "harm" someone…