错不在我
Mistakes Were Made
Carol Tavris、Elliot Aronson · 初版 2007 年
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为什么值得读
- 阐明人是自我辩解以维护自尊的机器
- 解释个人即使面对错误也否认现实
- 透视企业或个人明知故犯却无法悔改
我们每个人在某个时刻都会做出糟糕的决定、做出伤害他人的举动，或是固守过时的信念。当我们这样做时，便会努力去缓解那种认知失调——因为自认为聪明、有道德且正确的我们，刚刚却做了愚蠢、不道德或错误的事情。无论后果是微不足道还是悲剧性的，要承认“我犯了一个可怕的错误”都是十分困难的，对某些人而言甚至是不可能的。代价越高——无论是情感、财务还是道德层面——这种困难就越大。自我辩解这一根深蒂固的机制，蒙蔽了我们，让我们无法正视自己可能……
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……而一个人的自我形象（比如“我可没那么好骗”）往往会被“解决”掉，让步于更重要的因素——也就是这个人的自我形象本身。所以他们选择否定现实。[1] http://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/B003HFFI...
…and a person's self-image (i.e. "I am difficult to fool") is often 'resolved' in favor of the more important factor, which is the person's self-image. So they deny reality. [1] http://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/B003HFFI...
……为了捞快钱不惜毁掉整个社会，这确实能解释很多事情。如果你在 Facebook 工作，而且忍不住想跟我辩解为什么你自己的这场浮士德式交易其实没那么糟糕，去读读《错不在我》（Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)）吧。https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Mad...
…burning down society for a quick buck would really explain a lot. If you work at Facebook and you feel compelled to tell me why your personal Faustian bargain was actually not such a bad thing, read Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me). https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Mad...
……品德高尚且理应得到这一切。人就是自我合理化的机器——如果我们拥有某样东西，就必须证明自己为什么配拥有它；如果我们没有，就必须证明为什么自己不该有。如果你想对这个话题有更深的见解，去读读《错不在我》（Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)）、《怪诞行为学》（Predictably Irrational）和《确信的秘密》（On Being Certain）。更进一步说，有些人之所以发财，是因为在正确的时间拥有了正确的眼光并付诸了行动。这往往根本不需要拼命努力。那些……
…virtuous and deserving. Humans are justification machines -- if we have something, we have to justify why we have it. If we don't, we have to justify why we don't. If you want insights into this topic, read Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me), Predictably Irrational and On Being Certain. Even more than that, there are people who got rich by having the right insight at the right time, and acted on it. That often doesn't take hard work. Those…
这些是我今年读过且真心喜欢的书：《成吉思汗》（Genghis Khan）https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/93426.Genghis_Khan_and_t... 《错不在我》（Mistakes were made (but not by me)）https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Mad... 《人类简史》（Sapiens - a brief history of humankind）https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23692271-sapiens 《世界小史》（A little history of the world）https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/61505.A_Little_History_o...……
These are the ones I read this year that I really loved: Genghis Khan https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/93426.Genghis_Khan_and_t... Mistakes were made (but not by me) https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/522525.Mistakes_Were_Mad... Sapiens - a brief history of humankind https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23692271-sapiens A little history of the world https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/61505.A_Little_History_o...…
……你不知道它是否真的能保护你。所以假设终身教职（tenure）能保护你，同样是个很危险的假设。补充一下：我还想推荐这本极好的书：https://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/1491514... 令人难过的是，这就是为什么 Google 即使想改变心意也做不到了。
…you don't know if it really protects you. So assuming tenure will protect you is, likewise, a dangerous assumption. Addendum: I would also like to point out this excellent book: https://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/1491514... That's why Google cannot change its mind even if it wanted to, sadly.
……秀。一般来说，在像这样的公众人物身败名裂事件中，人们往往会过度把原因归咎于道德败坏。目前细节还不够充分，没法断言。有一本关于这类事情的好书《错不在我》（Mistakes were made (but not by me)）。[1] 我觉得那篇博文写得非常好，提供了独特的视角，文笔也很精彩。[1] https://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/1491514...
…show. Generally, in public downfalls like this, people over ascribe the causes to moral turpitude. There aren’t enough details here to say either way yet. There is a good book about this sort of thing Mistakes were made (but not by me). [1] I think the blog post is very good, providing a unique perspective, and wonderfully written. [1] https://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/1491514...