《Parenting from the Inside-Out》（全脑教养）。如果你愿意慢慢读完它，并且认真做里面的练习，那它真的价值连城。如果你只是翻翻、在理智上理解了，收获就远远没有那么大了。
Parenting from the Inside-Out. If you're willing to work your way through it slowly, and do the exercises, it is invaluable. If you just read and understand it intellectually, the benefit is not nearly so great.
……不足以成为一个合格的父母。我猜你指的是狭义上作为社会教育者的父母，否则这几乎就是句陈词滥调；你能展开讲讲吗？我想推荐《Parenting From The Inside-Out》这本书，它探讨了我们与孩子的互动方式如何塑造他们将自己对世界的情感与逻辑反应整合为一个有用、连贯整体的能力。
…is not sufficient to be a decent parent. I assume you mean parent in the limited sense of social educator else this is something of a truism; could you expand on this? I'm going to suggest the book Parenting From The Inside-Out for an exploration of the ways in which our interactions with our children shape their ability to integrate their emotional and logical responses of the world into a useful, coherent, whole.
我随口能想到的，阿尔菲·科恩（Alfie Kohn）的《Unconditional Parenting》（无条件养育）是该领域的开山之作。丹尼尔·西格尔（Daniel Siegel）和玛丽·哈策尔（Mary Hartzell）合著的《Parenting From the Inside Out》也极棒。
Off the top of my head, "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn is a seminal text in the field. "Parenting From the Inside Out" by Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell is wonderful as well.
……续作《No-Drama Discipline》（去情绪化管教），希望能在这个方面提供更多实用的建议。《How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk》（如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说）也很不错。《Parenting From The Inside Out》则是一记当头棒喝，直击痛点，让你先去解决自己的心理问题。我还要说，（尽量）保证睡眠、健康饮食、锻炼，以及在工作与家庭之间划清界限……
…the follow-up "No-Drama Discipline", and hoping it will provide even more practical advice in this area. "How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk" is also good. "Parenting From The Inside Out" is a gut punch about getting your own psychological problems addressed first. I'll also say that prioritizing sleep (as best as you can), proper diet, exercise, and healthy boundaries between work/home…
我正在读《Parenting from the Inside Out》，它深入探讨了你提到的很多观点，剖析了童年早期形成的记忆和自我叙事，以及它们是如何影响成年人面对育儿经历时的反应的。
I’m reading “Parenting from the Inside Out” right now and it dives into a lot of the ideas you’ve mentioned, looking at how memories and self-narrative formed in early childhood, but also how they inform adult responses to the experience of parenthood.
……“了解到……”。优秀的自助类书籍能提供一个框架，让你理解童年时期的成长经历如何影响了你现在的行为，以及你可以如何努力去改变。我最近在读《Parenting from the Inside Out》，它不仅深入探讨了大脑发育的心理学和神经学机制，还解释了童年期不安全依恋是如何代际传递的。我兼有冷漠型/回避型以及……
…"learning that...". Good self-help books can provide a framework to understand how your own childhood development influences your current behaviours, and how you can work to change. I'm currently reading "Parenting from the Inside Out" which goes into both the psychology and neurology of the developing brain, and explains how insecure childhood attachment can propagate across generations. I have a mixture of dismissive/avoidant and…
《Parenting from the Inside-Out》（全脑教养）。如果你愿意慢慢读完它，并且认真做里面的练习，那它真的价值连城。如果你只是翻翻、在理智上理解了，收获就远远没有那么大了。
Parenting from the Inside-Out. If you're willing to work your way through it slowly, and do the exercises, it is invaluable. If you just read and understand it intellectually, the benefit is not nearly so great.
……不足以成为一个合格的父母。我猜你指的是狭义上作为社会教育者的父母，否则这几乎就是句陈词滥调；你能展开讲讲吗？我想推荐《Parenting From The Inside-Out》这本书，它探讨了我们与孩子的互动方式如何塑造他们将自己对世界的情感与逻辑反应整合为一个有用、连贯整体的能力。
…is not sufficient to be a decent parent. I assume you mean parent in the limited sense of social educator else this is something of a truism; could you expand on this? I'm going to suggest the book Parenting From The Inside-Out for an exploration of the ways in which our interactions with our children shape their ability to integrate their emotional and logical responses of the world into a useful, coherent, whole.
我随口能想到的，阿尔菲·科恩（Alfie Kohn）的《Unconditional Parenting》（无条件养育）是该领域的开山之作。丹尼尔·西格尔（Daniel Siegel）和玛丽·哈策尔（Mary Hartzell）合著的《Parenting From the Inside Out》也极棒。
Off the top of my head, "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn is a seminal text in the field. "Parenting From the Inside Out" by Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell is wonderful as well.
……续作《No-Drama Discipline》（去情绪化管教），希望能在这个方面提供更多实用的建议。《How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk》（如何说孩子才会听，怎么听孩子才肯说）也很不错。《Parenting From The Inside Out》则是一记当头棒喝，直击痛点，让你先去解决自己的心理问题。我还要说，（尽量）保证睡眠、健康饮食、锻炼，以及在工作与家庭之间划清界限……
…the follow-up "No-Drama Discipline", and hoping it will provide even more practical advice in this area. "How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk" is also good. "Parenting From The Inside Out" is a gut punch about getting your own psychological problems addressed first. I'll also say that prioritizing sleep (as best as you can), proper diet, exercise, and healthy boundaries between work/home…
我正在读《Parenting from the Inside Out》，它深入探讨了你提到的很多观点，剖析了童年早期形成的记忆和自我叙事，以及它们是如何影响成年人面对育儿经历时的反应的。
I’m reading “Parenting from the Inside Out” right now and it dives into a lot of the ideas you’ve mentioned, looking at how memories and self-narrative formed in early childhood, but also how they inform adult responses to the experience of parenthood.
……“了解到……”。优秀的自助类书籍能提供一个框架，让你理解童年时期的成长经历如何影响了你现在的行为，以及你可以如何努力去改变。我最近在读《Parenting from the Inside Out》，它不仅深入探讨了大脑发育的心理学和神经学机制，还解释了童年期不安全依恋是如何代际传递的。我兼有冷漠型/回避型以及……
…"learning that...". Good self-help books can provide a framework to understand how your own childhood development influences your current behaviours, and how you can work to change. I'm currently reading "Parenting from the Inside Out" which goes into both the psychology and neurology of the developing brain, and explains how insecure childhood attachment can propagate across generations. I have a mixture of dismissive/avoidant and…